No ‘excuses’: Tips for exercising when it feels impossible
We’ve all been there. You set a goal to exercise regularly, but when the moment comes to get moving, your mind unleashes a torrent of excuses: I’m tired. It’s cold outside. I don’t want to spend money on a class.
These mental blocks may explain why it’s so hard to keep a New Year’s resolution for longer than four months. So, how do you cut through them?
The first step, experts say, is to stop thinking of them as “excuses.”
Just using that word can suggest you failed and should feel bad about your willpower. Research has shown that self-criticism and shame can stop you from meeting your goals, said Katy Milkman, a behavioral scientist at the University of Pennsylvania and the author of “How to Change.”
Instead, reframe the reasons you aren’t exercising as genuine obstacles and devise a plan to overcome them, Milkman said. “Most of us don’t just need a goal,” she said, but specific steps and strategies to follow.
I asked experts in exercise science and psychology to share their best advice for conquering common reasons people struggle to build an exercise habit. Here are their time-tested solutions.
I have no time.
If you face a jam-packed daily schedule, try starting small, said Kate Baird, an exercise physiologist at the Hospital for Special Surgery in New York. Instead of carving out 30 to 60 minutes several times a week, plan several short bursts of movement throughout the day.
“If you’re not able to do much, doing anything is going to be helpful in so many ways,” she said.
For example, walk a few laps around the block during lunch, she said, or sneak in a series of squats between meetings. Ideally, you want these bursts to add up to the recommended 150 minutes of moderate aerobic activity and 30 to 60 minutes of full-body strength training per week.
Or you could multitask: Try walking or using a resistance band while on a phone call or watching TV, she said. (Several of the experts I talked to were walking while being interviewed.)
If you want to have a dedicated workout window, Baird recommended taking a hard look at your calendar and asking yourself: Is there anything that could go, or anything you could trade for a dose of movement? Could you experiment with setting your alarm 30 minutes earlier?
I feel self-conscious.
If the thought of working out in front of other people makes you want crawl into a hole, know that you have options, said Kelly Roberts, a running coach and body-positive fitness influencer in New York City. “The gym is a really intimidating space,” even for experienced exercisers, she said.
For some people, a solution might be exercising at home. But for others, Roberts recommended taking a few steps to combat feelings of self-consciousness.
First, remind yourself why you’re there, whether it’s to feel stronger or to train for a race. Reconnecting with your
goal can help to shore you up, she said.
Second, designate a friend or family member who you can text in the moment, who can support you when you’re feeling vulnerable.
Third, try a different gym, class or group. If a space makes you feel uncomfortable in your own skin, it’s OK to leave, Roberts said. “Some spaces are more welcoming than others,” she said.
The past few years have seen a burst of fitness offerings for people who may have historically felt unwelcome in gyms because of their gender or racial identity, body size or athletic ability, such as pace-inclusive running clubs or gyms marketed toward LGBTQ communities.
I don’t want to spend money.
You don’t need a fancy gym to get fit, said Grayson Wickham, a physical therapist in New York City. “There’s so much you can do just with body weight,” he said. “It’s pretty amazing.” Planks, pushups, lunges, squats and pointers can all build strength, and regular stretching can cultivate flexibility.
For aerobic exercise, you can do jumping jacks, or consider spending a few dollars on a jump rope. If you have access to a safe outdoor space, you can walk, run or strength-train outside, Wickham said — and get the added benefit of spending time in nature. For expert guidance, download a free workout app.
It’s too cold, or too hot.
A shift in temperature doesn’t have to be a bad
thing. Think of the change in weather as an opportunity to try something new, or include more variety in your routine, said Dr. Edward Phillips, an associate professor of physical medicine and rehabilitation at Harvard Medical School.
“Maybe in the middle of the winter, it’s a good time to bolster your strength training and work on your core, or finally engage in a Pilates class or sink your teeth into some yoga,” he said. Or embrace the weather and try snowshoeing. In the summer, consider trading your run for a swim.
I don’t have the space.
If you have room for a yoga mat, you have enough space to get in a great workout, Phillips said.
“You can get stronger and in better shape and more flexible” in just a few square
feet, he said, as long as you can comfortably move your arms and legs without bumping into a wall or furniture.
Beyond doing yoga, you could jump rope, do bodyweight exercises, lift dumbbells or kettlebells, stretch, or use resistance bands, Wickham said.
If exercising in close quarters feels too claustrophobic, consider an outdoor space that you can make your gym, he said.
I’m in pain.
It might seem counterintuitive, but for those who struggle with forms of chronic muscle or joint discomfort — such as low back pain, neck pain, or pain from osteoarthritis and rheumatoid arthritis — physical activity is likely to help make it better, Phillips said.
If you live with chronic pain of any kind and want to be more active, talk to a doctor or an expert in exercise science who can guide you on the safest and most effective movements for your condition.
I’m exhausted all the time.
When even the word “exercise” makes you feel tired, experts recommend meeting your body where it is — in a few different ways.
“I think the first practical way to approach this is to ask yourself, are you working out at the best time of day, or best time of the week, for your energy?,” Baird said.
If you know that you have the most energy first thing in the morning and generally feel wiped in late afternoon, try working out early in the day.
If getting started feels like a hurdle, Kelly Mcgonigal, a health psychologist and lecturer at Stanford University, recommends beginning with a mini-workout designed to boost your state of mind. Exercising for the length of “one song is great, because a song will change your mood,” she said. “Do something that reminds you that it feels good to move.”
Remember that exercise doesn’t have to be intense for it to “count,” experts say. Stretching, yoga, Pilates, walking and jogging at a conversational pace are all great options.
And finally, do what you can to ensure that you are getting enough sleep.
I just don’t like it.
If you have yet to find a form of movement that you enjoy, keep looking. “Exercise” doesn’t have to mean going to the gym — it can be as simple as dancing alone in your living room, playing pickleball, or chasing after your kids or grandkids — basically, moving in any way that brings you joy, Mcgonigal said.