Man’s female friends give off ‘vibes’

Dear Abby: I have been seeing a wonderful man for seven months and spend every weekend with him. We live 45 miles apart, but it works for us. He has a group of friends, five ladies, that he spends a lot of time with. He dated one of them for a year before he broke it off, but they remain friends. I have met the group and, while they act friendly, I get a proprietary vibe from them. It makes me feel extremely uncomfortable around them and I have told him so. Am I looking for trouble where there isn’t any? Should I just ignore the fact that his friends are women? He has men friends, too, but it’s the girls he is closer to.

Threatened In Arizona

Dear Threatened: These women may be emitting a “proprietary vibe” because they feel threatened and fear you will steal him away.

For now, ignore the “vibes.” Be warm and friendly to the women and concentrate on what you have going with him.

Dear Abby: My daughter is expecting her second child. I threw a baby shower for her when she was expecting her first and she complained that it “felt cheap” and wasn’t the celebration she envisioned.

I was deeply hurt, but the shower was for her, and I did not want to focus on my feelings. I am unsure whether I should plan a shower for her now. I don’t want to offend her by not doing so. Please advise.

Well-Meaning in New Mexico

Dear Well-Meaning: Your daughter’s behavior is rude and ungrateful. You are under no obligation to give her another baby shower. If she approaches you for another one, suggest she ask some of her friends to give her the “shower of her dreams.”

Dear Abby: Why, in social situations, do women with long hair feel the need to constantly change their hairstyle from an updo to letting it fall to their shoulders and vice versa? This lets hair — and dander — fly around, and it’s especially offensive at the dinner table. It’s like bringing in a collie and having it shake all over three or four times. We have noticed this especially in middle-aged women. My neighbor thinks they are trying to draw attention to themselves.

Hairy Situation in Washington

Dear Hairy Situation: This is a habit I have observed among women of every age. In most cases, I agree with your neighbor. It screams, “Look at me!”