Stamford Advocate

Long friendship in jeopardy over joke

- Jeanne Phillips Write to Dear Abby at P.O. Box 96440, Los Angeles, CA 90069 or

Dear Abby: A friend of 40 years is always saying what she can’t afford, yet she owns property, has a 401(k), always finds additional work in her field and buys the cheapest groceries. She won’t spend a dime.

In a recent text she was going on again about money. When I (jokingly) quipped, “You’re probably a millionair­e by now!” she jumped on me as if I’d called her the B-word and went off on a rant. I was dumbfounde­d. I apologized because she felt I’d badly offended her by calling her a “millionair­e.” When she didn’t respond, I left it alone. This was a few days ago. This morning I got a text from her as if nothing happened.

I’m no longer feeling like I’m her “friend.” I feel shot down and ready to call it quits. Your expert advice is most appreciate­d and needed.

Falling Out of Friendship

Dear Falling Out: Before ending a 40-year friendship, please TELL this woman she hurt your feelings. Then ask why your casual comment triggered such a strong reaction. Her response to your reasonable question will tell you everything you need to know about whether your relationsh­ip is salvageabl­e.

Dear Abby: I am a stay-athome mom of a 4-year-old son. For various reasons, my husband and I have decided he will be our only child. He will soon be in school almost full time and I will be returning to work. When I think about it, I get depressed. These have been the best years of my life, and I think I made a mistake letting my son become my “reason” for happiness. I know we will make many more memories together, but I feel like it’s kind of the end of an era and I’m not sure what to do with myself. Can you advise?

Mommy Moving Forward

Dear Mommy: This may be “the end of an era,” but it is also the beginning of a NEW one. Your son is about to experience the first of many growth spurts, and you along with him. In addition to his academic lessons, he’s going to learn how to become independen­t and relate to other children. Both are vital to his developmen­t as a person.

Rather than dwell on your sadness, consider this a time of growth for yourself as well, and focus on the positive. If you can help out at your son’s school, volunteer if you have time outside of work.

Because he’s starting school doesn’t mean your role as a mother is done. Quite the contrary.

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