Sister treats her twin like Cinderella

Dear Abby: When my husband died two months ago, my identical twin helped me move in with her. She never married. I do all the chores — clean six litter boxes, load and unload the dishwasher, etc. I don’t know how to operate her washer/dryer, as she has shown me only once. She doesn’t like the way I use my phone, set up files, nothing. She also drinks a lot, uses marijuana and is on a starvation diet. If I eat any carbohydrates at dinner, she accuses me of being a “glutton.”

At first, she was happy I was here, because on a previous visit she said I was her drinking buddy. I don’t usually care much about eating, since my sense of taste is poor. Last night, because I could taste the dinner, I ate more. She accused me of being a glutton and a parasite.

I’m tempted to go live in my truck to avoid her constant sniping. I have no money, YET. She loaned me $4,500, and feels that any money I receive from now on must go directly to her. Please help me.

Unhappy Twin In Michigan

Dear Unhappy: Unless you want to be your sister’s maid for the rest of your days, make other living arrangements. You are being treated like Cinderella.

Repay the loan in installments after you find a job or the estate is settled. What you are experiencing now is abuse, and for the sake of your mental health, you cannot allow it to continue.

Dear Abby: I had a man as a roommate for a year while he worked in town. “Rodney” was a wonderful roommate. After his lease ran out and he was transferred elsewhere, he came clean about his feelings for me. Then the pandemic happened, and he disappeared for two years.

Rodney is now back and wants to live with me part time again. This time he wants more intimacy. He’s kind and helpful around the house. He has a residence 1,000 miles from here. I don’t want to be “friends with benefits.” I don’t know him well enough to know if I want more. But I enjoy his company a lot. Any advice? Roommate Romance

In California

Dear Roommate: Sex with you should not be part of Rodney’s lease agreement. If you are looking for a relationship that could lead to “something more,” do not jump into this without carefully weighing the pros and cons, including the emotional risk involved.