Child-averse couple faces kid kryptonite

Dear Amy: I’m a woman in my mid-30s. My husband and I are indecisive about having kids. I’m not much of a “kid person.” He is definitely better.

I got along with schildren well until a few years ago, when relatives started pressuring us, declaring that we were selfish or missing out.

My husband and I are bombarded by photos of the kids in the family.

I’m uneasy about planned visits from family this summer.

I know the conversations will revolve heavily around childrearing.

Also, my youngest nieces/ nephews, who are kryptonite for my patience, are being brought into the mix.

Our home is not exactly kid-friendly.

I’m thinking of suggesting an outing or two at a big, lovely park near us that has a well-maintained dog park, plenty of walking paths, and one or two playgrounds. The only downside is the grandparents likely couldn’t join us.

Do you have recommendations? — Not a Kid Person

Dear Not a Kid Person: Unfortunately, in addition to not being a “kid person,” you don’t want to see photos or listen to parents discuss them.

I know you must have some reserve of patience, so you should work on applying more tolerance, because your parameters are so limiting that it is as if you are setting yourself up for failure.

Keep the visit short. Three nights might be best, especially if you have family members staying with you.

Prepare your house by tucking away valuables.

Ask parents for ideas in terms of keeping the children occupied, fed and watered, but remember their parents should always be in charge.

I would plan one larger outing, and one mini-outing.