Caught in a rerun of ‘Fatal Attraction’?

Dear Amy: I am a 28-year-old, college-educated woman who has been in a serious relationship for the past two years. Last year my boyfriend’s job took him to a different state. I left my family and job and moved to be with him.

We were happy and made do with what time he had after his long workdays.

We had been in this new location for about seven months when I received a message from a girl, claiming that they had messed around. I asked for proof and she provided pictures of them posed together.

I confronted him and he said that he hung out with her a few times. He apologized but was adamant that they did not sleep together.

I thanked the girl for telling me.

A few days later, she (and a friend of hers) sent me more messages detailing the relationship and asking if I had left him yet.

I asked him point-blank and he again told me no, they did not have sex. Who should I believe? . I love this man, but I’m torn. I want to repair the breach of trust, but I don’t want to be made a fool. — Dazed and Confused

Dear Dazed:

Following is a list of reasons why a person in a committed cohabiting relationship would legitimately create “the facade of a single life”: Oops — there are none.

Lucky him — he became entangled with another woman who is obnoxious, creepy and tips the scales toward “Fatal Attraction.” Her behavior seems to have eclipsed his behavior. And so now you are blaming her and excusing him.

You seem to care the most about whether your boyfriend had sex with this other person. You obviously have a great deal invested in this relationship, and you can choose to believe him in order to stay in it, but repairing the broken trust is not your job — it’s his.