Solo attraction affects a friendship

Dear Amy: I’ve been friends with “Sandra” for about a year now.

She is gay. I am totally supportive of her. However, she told me she is very attracted to me.

I’m a straight woman, and I’m not attracted to her. I told her this.

She has been acting increasingly inappropriate around me. She seems to go out of her way to touch me in ways she didn’t before. She has taken to kissing me.

She invited me over for dinner, and when I arrived, she walked out almost completely unclothed. She apologized and said she “forgot” I was coming over.

I raised my concerns, and she asked if I found her repulsive. I told her of course not!

If a man were acting this way, I would accuse him of sexual harassment and tell him not to contact me . I don’t want Sandra to think I’m discriminating against her. Her behavior is the issue for me.

How do I frame this?— Just Friends

Dear Just Friends:

“Sandra” boldly expressed her sexual interest in you, and you responded by frankly revealing your own choice not to reciprocate. She then upped the ante.

She may be using your own fear of seeming homophobic to test you. Her behavior is manipulative. At the most, she is sexually harassing you. You should tell her that this is a friendship deal breaker.

Dear Amy: Responding to people who think there is no harm done by vaping in the restaurant, there are people with issues or asthma and that vaping can trigger a potentially deadly reaction.

When done outside, it is easier to avoid. — Lung Problems

Dear Problems:

Great point. In most places, smoking or vaping inside is simply not permitted.