Attendee wants to wear wedding dress

Dear Amy: This summer, my husband and I will be attending his brother’s wedding overseas.

It’s going to be an expensive trip.

I am a full-time grad student. I also work. Most of my paycheck goes to covering my expenses.

While we’re getting a little bit of cash from my in-laws to help cover the cost of the wedding, we’ll still spend quite a bit of our own money.

Two years ago, my husband and I got married in a very small ceremony with our immediate family — his brother was not able to attend. I went with a very nontraditional look — a blue gown that I got off the sale rack. It’s a gorgeous dress.

I was wondering if I could wear it to this wedding in order to save money.

It feels tacky and I worry that the rest of the family will recognize the dress and feel like I’m trying to “show up the bride.”

My other thought was to get the dress’s hem altered or even make it into a fancy jumpsuit.

I want to be as respectful as possible to the newlyweds, while also refraining from spending a significant chunk of my savings on an outfit I’ll likely never wear again. What is the best course of action to take here? — Wedding Woes

Dear Woes: You could research the cost of renting a gown (most I looked at seemed fairly expensive).

Otherwise, I’m saying a qualified yes to the dress — with some modification. If you could wear it “as is” and not feel tacky, you should — but it doesn’t sound as if you can.

If you can afford to have the dress altered, I vote no to the pantsuit idea and suggest having a floor-length skirt made. You can then pair it with any variety of tops (borrowed, or bought second-hand). Skirts are extremely versatile, and you would likely wear it again.