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Dear Abby: Do women ever initiate sex with men, or must they always be wooed, cajoled, begged or persuaded? I have a fairly good physical relationship with my wife, but it happens only when I make the overtures. I am left with the conclusion that either the physical act isn’t that enjoyable or I am not very desirable.

If every encounter must start with me, and my wife can take it or leave it, is she just doing me a favor? Must sex always start with the guy, or can women demonstrate more overt interest?—Undersexed in Ohio

Dear Undersexed: Many women—but not all—initiate sex with their partner. If your wife doesn’t, it may be she isn’t comfortable being the aggressor, her hormone levels have changed, sex may have become painful for her, or she never got much out of it in the first place.

Not knowing her, I can’t explain why she never makes the first move. But this I AM sure of—until you have a frank and honest discussion with her about it, nothing is going to change, and it may need to happen with the help of a marriage counselor.

Dear Abby: I have been married to “Richard” for three years, but we have lived together for 10. I was Richard’s first and only girlfriend. He’s very shy and reserved, while I have always been the outgoing, rebellious type.

I have been communicating with another man, “Drew,” for about a year. It started out as me just having a little fun, but now I’m seriously considering leaving Richard. Although Drew and I have never met in person, we’re romantically involved and both of us believe we’re in love.

I love Richard, but I just don’t feel “in love” anymore. We have lost our connection. We have talked about our communication problems, and he knows about Drew. Despite my explaining what the problems were, I feel he has ignored the issues.

We have been trying to get pregnant for years and it hasn’t happened. I’m starting to believe it is a sign that I should move on. Should I follow my heart and be with Drew or stay with Richard despite my feelings? Please help.—Distraught in Texas

Dear Distraught: I’m willing to wager that if you devoted just a fraction of the energy you have spent on your extracurricular relationship to your husband, your marriage would be in better shape. With the help of a marriage counselor you might even be able to address those issues you feel have been ignored and re-establish your “connection.”

But for you to throw away your marriage for someone you haven’t met in person would be a serious mistake. Be glad that you haven’t gotten pregnant and dragged a child into this. It would have broken your husband’s heart, not only because you abandoned him but also because he would have been separated from the child he loved.

Dear Abby: A year ago I gave my brother-in-law a framed print that had belonged to my late husband. Some time afterward, out of curiosity, I researched it and found that it is worth far more than I realized—several thousand dollars.

I haven’t mentioned this to my brother-in-law. I would never ask for the print back, but would it be OK to let him know the value and mention that if he ever decides not to keep it, I might like it returned? (I would sell it and put the money in my daughter’s college fund.)—Gave More Than I Thought

Dear Gave: Level with your brother-in-law about having researched the print and ask him to return it. When you do, tell him you need the money for your daughter’s college fund. Offer to exchange it for an item with sentimental value. Honesty is the best policy, and he may agree.

WeeKly CluB meetinGs Arklatex Woodcarving Club meets from 5 p.m. to 8 p.m. Mondays at Sugar Hill United Methodist Church, 1621 Sugar Hill Road. Call Porter McAfee at 870-773-7404.

Cadet Program Civil Air Patrol meets at 6:30 p.m. Mondays at Texarkana Regional Airport Building 13, for ages 12 to 18 years. Call 870-773-2992.

Duplicate Bridge Club meets from 10 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. Mondays at 2010 Moores Lane, Suite 116. Bring a partner and a sack lunch. Call Sheila Bell at 903-793-2952.

Kiwanis Club of texarkana meets at noon Wednesdays at Williams Memorial United Methodist Church, 4000 Moores Lane.

lake Country Harmony Chorus meets at 6:30 p.m. Mondays at Church on the Rock, Daingerfield, Texas. Call 903-639-3272.

lockesburg Quilt and Craft Guild meets at 6 p.m. Thursdays at Lockesburg Baptist Church. Call 870-289-3704.

miller County Patriots meets at 6 p.m. Tuesdays at Big Jakes BBQ, Arkansas Boulevard. Contact Dwayne Hall at 903-733-4664 or MillerCountyPatriots.com.

Research and enlightenment study Group meets 4 p.m. to 5:30 p.m. Wednesdays at Smokey Joe’s BBQ, 300 E. New Boston Road, Nash, Texas. The group is based on the readings of Edgar Cayce. Call Jeri at 903-791-0459.

solid Rock toastmasters Club meets at 10:30 a.m. Wednesdays at Restoration House, 2220 College Drive. Contact 903-2237615 or dixonlf@gmail.com.

tai Chi Club of Texarkana meets 10 a.m. to 11 a.m. Saturdays at 303 W. Broad St. Call Susan Moore at 870-774-2819.

texarkana, Ark., noon Kiwanis Club meets at noon Tuesdays at Golden Corral.

texarkana evening lions Club meets at 6:30 p.m. the second and fourth Monday each month at Iron Mountain Neighborhood Center.

texarkana noon lions Club meets at noon Wednesdays at

Monthly club or community activity announcements will appear the Wednesday before the next meeting. Announcements must be submitted to the Gazette by 5 p.m. Friday. Weekly club meetings and Self Help runs every other week.

ACtivities texas master naturalists Red River Chapter will hold and orientation meeting for upcoming training classes at 7 p.m. today at Red River County Extension Office, 402 N. Cedar. Those interested in becoming a certified naturalist are encouraged to attend. Naturalists explore the ecology of Northeast Texas including trees, flowering plants, birds, butterflies, dragonflies, insects, mammals, fish, frogs, soils, wetlands, river systems, forests and more. For information contact Bob Maroney at 903-697-3548, Red River County Extension Agent Lynn Golden at 903-427-3867 or Kathleen Craft at 903-6321225.

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twice as nice toastmasters meets at 7 p.m. each Tuesday of the month at Walnut Church of Christ, Moores Lane. Call Tommy Gaither at 903-276-0440.

twin City sensations Chorus Chapter of sweet Adelines, international, a women’s fourpart harmony a capella group, rehearses from 6:30 p.m. to 9 p.m. Tuesdays at Trinity Presbyterian Church, 2623 N. Robison Road. Now accepting performance requests. Call 903838-6979.

twin Cities toastmasters meet from noon to 1 p.m. Thursdays at First Lutheran Church, 4600 Texas Blvd. Lunch is served for $7.50. Call Dwayne Butler at 870-7724039.

university toastmasters Club meets at noon to 1 p.m. Wednesdays China King Buffet, N. State Line Ave. Call Kyle Elkins at 903-244-5720.

selF-HelP Lows Chapter will have its monthly campout Feb. 7-10 at Antique Capital RV Park, 500 S. Loop 485, Gladewater, Texas. For information, call Ruth at 903-678-3714 or Dorothy at 870-904-7591.

silas H. Hunt Community Development Corp. annual tea and membership drive will be 2 p.m. Saturday at 301 Seibert St. Donations are $10 each. The speaker will be Dr. Anissa E. Buckner. Also scheduled to appear is the St. Paul Missionary Baptist Church Praise Team, Bryia Lewis, Lindell Harrison Steens and Mary Griffith. Call 870774-0446m 903-280-8471 or 903-691-9765.

Relay for life survivor Reception will be 2 p.m. to 4 p.m. Feb. 10 at Central Baptist Church, Ashdown, Ark. the speaker will be the Rev. James H. Cross of First United Methodist Church. Light refreshments will be served. Registration is not required. Call Linda Fielding at 903-276-5650 or go to relayforlife.org/littleriverar.

Alanon meets at 10:30 a.m. Wednesdays at Sacred Heart Catholic Church, Room 13, 4505 Elizabeth St. Call 903-832-4865; 7 p.m. Mondays at Disciples of Christ, Central Mall, outside entrance only, near North entry, call 903-276-7548; 8 p.m. Wednesdays and Thursdays at Serenity Club, 2013 S. Ann St.; and One Day At a Time at 6:30 p.m. Mondays and Thursdays at Sacred Heart Catholic Church meeting hall, 4505 Elizabeth St.

Alcoholics Anonymous meets daily. Call 903-794-4731.

Celebrate Recovery meets at 7 p.m. Mondays at Cross Pointe Baptist Church, 3130 University Ave. Call 903-223-7020 or go to crosspointetxk.org.

Cocaine Anonymous meets from 6:30 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. Mondays and Thursdays at Ozan Recreation Center, 1101 S. Couch St. Call 903-556-8337 or 903-7337729.

Co-Dependents Anonymous meets at 6 p.m. Mondays at 303 W. Broad St. Call Susan Moore at 870-774-2819.

Co-Dependents Anonymous meets 1 p.m. Thursdays and 7 p.m. Saturdays at Living Hope Group, 4009 Garland St. Call 903792-3000 or 903-278-6245.

Drug and Alcohol Recovery Class meets at 6 p.m. the first Saturday of each month at Landmark Pentecostal Church, 2905 Texas Blvd.

narconon is a nonprofit organization that specializes in helping people with drug and alcohol addictions and offers free local referrals through their 800 line. Call 1-800-468-6933 or visit stopaddiction.com.

new Boston AA Group meets each Thursday, Friday and Saturday at noon and every day at 8 p.m. at 130 North Elm St. Call Christie M. at 903-277-4625, JoAnn W. at 903-628-1901 or Tina J. at 903-628-4276.

new Boston narcotics Anonymous meets at 3 p.m. Saturdays and 8 p.m. Tuesdays and Thursdays at Chapel Light Church. Call Tina J. at 903-6284276.

narcotics Anonymous meets 8 p.m. Monday through Friday, noon Monday and Wednesday through Friday, 7 p.m. and 10 p.m. Saturdays and noon, 6 p.m. and 8 p.m. Sundays at 53 Airport Drive. Call 870-773-8470.

sex Addicts Anonymous meets Mondays in Texarkana. For men struggling with addictions to pornography and multiple affairs. Contact saatexarkana@yahoo. com. education Adult education classes for GED and ESL are available mornings, afternoons and evenings in Texarkana, at no charge. Free GED classes are also available evenings in Atlanta, DeKalb, Hooks, Hughes Springs, LibertyEylau, Linden, New Boston and Queen City. Call Whitney Jackson at 903-793-5632 ext. 1709 or Whitney.Jackson@txkisd.net.

Adult education classes for refresher, GED or ESL are held daily from 8 a.m. to 3:30 p.m. Monday through Thursday and 5 p.m. to 8 p.m. Tuesdays and Thursdays at Texarkana, Ark., Adult Education Center, 2300 Preston St., Texarkana, Ark. Classes are also available in Foreman, Ashdown, Genoa, Bradley, Fouke, Prescott, Nevada and Stamps. Call 870-774-4414 or 870-772-2006.

American Red Cross offers basic and instructor level classes in CPR, Professional Rescuer CPR, First Aid, Life-guarding, water safety and baby-sitting. Weekday and Saturday classes are available. Call 903-793-5602 or register at 821 Spruce St.

moPs (mothers of Preschoolers) meets: 9 a.m. to 11 a.m. the first and third Monday of each month at Grace Church, 220 S. Pecan St., Nash, Texas. Call 903-792-3106; and 9 a.m. to 11 a.m. the second and fourth Mondays September through May at First Baptist Church, 3015 Moores Lane, Room 182. Call 903831-6000.

teACH, texarkana educators Association of Christian Homeschoolers, meets from 6:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m. the first Thursday of each month at Pleasant Grove Baptist Church, 6601 Jones Lane. Log on to homeschool-life.com/tx/teach.

toRCH Homeschool support Group will meets 7 p.m. to 9 p.m. the first Tuesday of each month August through May at Landmark Baptist Church, 401 Vernal. For information go to homeschoollife.com/tx/torch.

texarkana College offers CPR and First Aid classes through the American Heart Association for healthcare professionals, childcare providers and others. Evening and Saturday classes are available at various times each month. Call the Continuing Education Division at 903-8384541, ext. 3270. employment underemployed/unemployed support Group meets 6 p.m. to 7:15 p.m. each Monday at Restoration House, 2202 College Drive. To register, call 903-9085763, email JRiley@pittsrileygroup.com or go to eventbrite. com/event/4194832858/. Family Divorced Dads support Group meets 6 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. the last Sunday of each month at First United Methodist Church, 400 E. Sixth St., with John Morkavich. Call the church at 870-772-6931 or Morkavich at 903-733-5962.

new Boston’s Women’s support Group meets 7 p.m. the last Thursday of each month at Chapel of Life, 301 N. Center.

texarkana la leche league, mother-to-mother Breastfeeding support Group meets 10:30 a.m. to 11:30 a.m. the first Friday of each month at CHRISTUS St. Michael Hospital, Administration Room 2. Call Georgiaberry Mobley at 870-653-3062.

texarkana Parents of twins, triplets, Plus meets at 7 p.m. the third Tuesday of each month. Call Lori Terrell at 903-791-0727 for meeting place.

For a complete Self-Help listing, go to texarkanagazette.com.