Man deserves to know truth
Dear Abby: A friend of mine faked a pregnancy to get a man to stay with her. Once he moved in, she told him she’d had a miscarriage. She even went so far as to name this so-called baby.
He now has the baby’s name tattooed on his arm! She goes on Facebook and talks about how she misses her “little baby boy,” and counts every month as though it is his birthday. Every time I read it I get a sick feeling.
I want to tell this man the truth. I know for a fact she was not pregnant. I’m not sure how to go about this. If I say something, I know I will end up the bad guy. Should I mind my own business or let this man know he’s living with a maniac?
Dear Wants: Your friend may have told this lie so often that she has come to believe it herself. While I don’t think she is a maniac, I do think she may be unbalanced.
I agree the man has a right to know. Wouldn’t you want to be told if you were him? The way to do it is face to face. And be prepared for the friendship to end. Frankly, that may be for the best because the woman has more problems than you can cope with.
Dear Abby: My husband and I have recently moved and are now being bombarded with demands to see our home. I was brought up to believe that inviting yourself to anything, especially the privacy of someone’s home, is extremely rude.
The times I have been unable to avoid people who insisted on coming over, they were rude and judgmental about the moving mess. Please advise me how to say “no” without offending those who are offending me.
Dear Homeowner: I’ll offer a tip. It is amazing what a person can get away with saying if it is done with a smile. All you have to do is smile and say: “Nope. No one can see it until the unveiling.”
Dear Abby: My problem is my mother. My entire life (I am 50) she has made me choose between her and Dad for the holidays. They have been divorced for 30 years, and she still speaks ill of him.
She is now doing the same thing with my boyfriend of four years. She refused to spend this past Easter with us, including my children, if he was around. I told her that it was her choice and she is always welcome to attend.
With Christmas fast approaching, I don’t want all the drama and blackmail to continue. Help!
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