Boyfriend is being thoughtful
Dear Abby: My girlfriend of six years spends weekends at my house where she has her own room with her clothing and personal things. Wanting her to be comfortable here, I have bought her some robes, PJs, slippers, etc. to use when she’s here.
One thing she never seems to have is underwear. She has even borrowed mine on occasion. So I shopped online and put a dozen pair in her dresser drawer. I know her size, style and color preference, so I thought I might be the best boyfriend ever for doing it.
Oddly enough, she made no comment. And when I asked, she said: “What kind of boyfriend does that? It’s sooo weird.”
Did I go too far? Please tell me I’m not weird.
Dear Dismayed: You’re not weird. You are a giver, and it is a trait that should be appreciated. Many women would have been touched by your thoughtfulness. I don’t know what kind of men your girlfriend has had in her life before you came along, but it seems they didn’t spoil her the way you’re trying to.
Dear Abby: I recently married, and my husband and I are starting to think about when we should try to have chil- dren. I am having a hard time getting over the mindset that my parents instilled in me that pregnancy is bad — as in when you’re a teenager and your parents tell you over and over. (At least mine did.)
How do I get over this mantra and move forward in my life? We want to start a family, but I always have this nagging feeling like I’m not as excited to have kids as my friends are. (We are in our early 30s.) Are these feelings normal?
Dear Bride: At this point, it might be helpful if you discussed this with your parents. After all, it was they who planted this seed of doubt in your head. I’m sure once they hear that what they planted has grown into a fear of having the grandchildren they would love to have, they will find the words to reassure you that a pregnancy after marriage is something to be celebrated. However, if your concerns continue after that, talk about them with your OB/GYN or a licensed counselor. 14 Eugene’s state 15 NOW cause 16 Cookie Bumstead’s neighbor 17 Reveal 18 Mountain pass 19 Isle of exile 20 Feel frustrated
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