Would-be suitor’s cleanliness might set the bar too high

Dear Abby: A wonderful man, “Frank,” said he was interested in developing a relationship. The problem? He is a super neat freak. A person could live in his garage — it’s that clean. The floor is spotless, and everything is in its place. Frank washes and shines his car every second day. When there is a delivery to his house, he makes the delivery people remove their shoes before entering.

I’m neat, but not to that extreme. When I’m at Frank’s house, I am on pins and needles if I leave a glass on a table that might leave a ring and terrified I’ll drop something on his carpet. Frank has never said anything, but I wonder what he’s thinking.

I like Frank a lot, but when he comes to my apartment, I notice his 360-degree gaze around the rooms. Another possible problem — he has no interest in culture or the arts. Am I right in seeing more minuses than pluses in such a relationship? — Neat Enough in Pennsylvania Dear Neat Enough: If what you want from the relationship is just friendship, I don’t see a problem. However, if you’re looking for more than that, then I’m afraid my answer is yes — to which I’ll add one more “minus”: your inability to discuss your misgivings with him.

Dear Abby: Recently, I went to the funeral of a family member. As we were leaving the chapel, a relative asked me if I was aware that the funeral had been live streamed. I was appalled. Am I wrong to think that this was really inappropriate? — Baffled in Boston Dear Baffled: You may be passing judgment too quickly. These days many funerals and memorials are live streamed but are not available to the general public. To view them, one needs an access code. Pat Sajak

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