Gift too big for little apartment

Dear Abby: My husband and I are expecting a baby in a few months. My father and his wife asked if we would like a large crib/changing table/shelf combination they took a fancy to at an antique store. I politely refused and explained that there is no space in our small apartment. They sent it anyway! Now I have to figure out how to get rid of it because it takes up most of our living room.

My questions are: Must I send a thank you for a gift I explicitly asked them not to send, and what should I say when they discover I’ve given it away (they are going to be angry)?

Dear Unwanted: Write your father and stepmother a sweet note thanking them for their thoughtfulness, and include with it a photo or two that show it crowding your living room. The next time you talk with them, explain that space is tight and offer to have it shipped to THEM to be used when the baby visits. If they agree, you’re off the hook. If they don’t, sell or donate it.

Dear Abby: I am an 18-year-old guy. A lot of my best friends are super cool and absolutely amazing people. All of them share one thing in common. They all dye their hair different unnatural colors, such as green, purple and even rainbow. I have natural hair, but now I feel left out, and I want to do the same. But I wonder what it feels like to have hair like that. Do you have any opinions on the subject or heard of past experiences from anyone about this?

Dear Dyed Hair Hopeful: Dyeing your hair in a neon color will attract attention, some of it positive and some of it negative. What’s important is whether YOU like it and the kind of attention it brings. You will never know until you try it. It’s only hair. If you decide you don’t like it, you can dye it back to its natural color or cut it off and let it grow out. It’s important to remember that hair dye will not make you cool and amazing.