The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Declutter with children? This Japanese dad can
Extreme minimalist living has a small but devoted set of followers.
TOKYO — Kids and clutter don’t have to go together ,s ays Naoki Numahata, a 42-year-old Japanese father so committed to minimalism that he’d make a monk look extravagant.
When his 4-year-old daughter Ei wants to play, she doesn’t go to a playroom or even a play corner. Instead, she gets a small basket that contains all her most precious possessions — a doll ,a Minions tin with some cars, a yo-yo and a spinning top - and plays happily on the stark white floor.
Their 420-square-foot Tokyo apartment is small even by Japanese standards, and is almost empty. There is nothing on the kitchen counter. In the drawers: three sets of chopsticks, two sets of children’s cutlery. The breakfast drawer contains a loaf of bread and a jar of honey.
There is no couch, only a table, a chair and a bench for two. The small bedroom conta ins a bed that Nu mahata and his wife share with Ei. His one concession to decadence: a big television that he use s for hi s wor ka s a Web designer.
He has only two pairs of pants, four shirts and four T-shirts, five pairs of underwear and four pairs of socks in the closet. Ei has two special occasion outfits on hangers and twos m all drawers for her regular clothes. Numahata says his wife is not a minimalist: She has five drawers for all her clothes, winter and summer.
This kind of extreme minimalism is not standard practice in Japan, but the concept of making do with less has become much more mainstream in recent years, an anti dote to materialism and excess. For the Numahata family and others like them, less really is more.
The most famous proponent of this concept abroad is the Japanese declutterer Marie Kondo,
whose “KonMari” method — she tells people to get rid of everything that doesn’t “spark joy” — has swept through the West in recent years.
But minimalism and decluttering became a craze in Japan several years before Kondo arrived on the scene.
Indeed, people here know the concept not as the “KonMari” method but as “danshari” — taken from three Japanese characters meaning “refuse,” “dispose” and “separate.”
“Modern soc i ety is all about getting more, more, more without taking account of your whole situation,” said Hideko Yamash ita, who was promoting the idea of danshari several years before Kondo arrived on the declut- tering scene. (She consid- ers Kondo something of an interloper.)
“With dansh ari, youn eed to determine what’s contaminating you and get rid of it,” Yamashita said in her sparsely furnished apart
ment in Tokyo, urging both a physical decontamination process of space and a clear- ing of the mind.
Her book on danshari became an instant bestseller in Japan, and the concept has now becom e a verb in its ownright. Japanese people don’t talk about Kon Mari, they say: “Ah, my house is a
mess. I need to danshari.” This is the opposite of the other recent exotic home trend: the Danish concept of “hygge” — creating a cozy space with rugs and candles and other things that make you feel warm.
Danshari is based on the idea that if you have a clutter-free environment, your
mind will also be clear . Formulating it, Yamashita, who is 63, was heavily influenced by eastern religions.
Zen Buddhism and Shintoism taught her to think about what she needs right now and to get rid of impurities, she said. And then there’s Tao, the philosophy that cons iders the natural order of the universe.
Many Japanese people of Yamashita’s generation, born after World War II, became hoarders, unwilling to throw anything away in case they needed it in a time of emergency. There is a constant refrain here of “mottainai,” or “don’t be wasteful” - as
in, better keep those 300 shopping bags in case you need them.
This clutter explains why so many Japanese people are unhappy today, she said.
“We have many depressed people in Japan. Their heads are too full of information, they become overwhelmed with their thoughts,” she said. The process of getting rid of tangible belongings helps clear out intangible things, too.
Some psychologists have started “prescribing” danshari to their patients to get
them to reflect on themselves, and Yamashita says dansharicane ven be good for relatio n ships: Once you’ve decluttered, you’re
m ore likely to invite peo- ple home.
Many Japanese people have seized on danshari as a way of life.
Yuriko Ozaki ,a working mother in Osaka with three boys, started decluttering after the devastating earthquake that rocked Japan in 2011. This event forced her to reconsider what was impor- tant in life — and having less stuff also reduces the chance
of being hurtby it during an earthquake.
She now write s a bl og teaching other parents how to declutter even while having children , and has written a book on how owning less stuff means less house- work and less strain on the family budget.
Then there’s Numahata, who was inspired by a photo in a magazine of a Japanese house that contained almost nothing and has also written a book, with fellow danshari devote e Fumio Sasaki.
“The year tha twehadour daughter, our place was so messy,” he said. “It inspired me to make our house look like the one in the magazine. We got rid of so much stuff, and I really liked the liber- ating feeling I got from having so little.”
Once they wered one, he made his wife a cup of coffee.
She sat in the empty room and drank it, and pronounced it delicious, he said — drawing t he conclusion that it tasted better because their space and minds were clear.
It’s changed the way they live their lives, he said. He moves more quietly and gracefully now, and as a family they go out more. (Numahata said his wife, an animator, is not a danshari follower but just “doesn’t like stuff .”)
Now Numahata is raising the next generation of minimalist in Ei, who just naturally cleans up after herself ,hesaid.
“As she’s gr owing up, of course she wants stuff,” he says of his daughter. “When we do buy things, we buy small things that fit in the basket.”
And they pass on gifts or toys that Ei has outgrown. “We let many of the things go without getting attached to
them. We repeat that cycle,” Numahata said. “People questi on why we give presents away, people might think it’s cold. It’ s just the way we live.”
With the few toys that she has, Ei makes up lots of games and has developed a good imagination, her father said. Ei speaks perfect, unaccented English, even though she goes to a Japanese kindergarten and hears only a little English at home from her father.
Visitors to their apartment are initially surprised by how empty it is, but soon remark how comfortable th eyf eel, he said. To explai n why, Numahata quoted a Taoist principle: “It’s the empty space inside the pot that makes it useful.”