Some tips on handling life’s disappointments

Have you ever had your heart set on something only to be disappointed in the end? Perhaps it was a person you hoped to date, a job you were seeking or a financial outcome. Disappointment never feels good.

How do you handle it when things don’t go your way? Some people internalize it from a negative perspective blaming and criticizing themselves for not succeeding. Others get angry at others or the situation, blaming people and circumstances outside of themselves. Neither of these strategies works toward your greater good.

You can experience disappointing or difficult news and still stay grounded and centered. You don’t have to allow it to unravel you. It’s easier said than done sometimes, especially if you held a certain desire close to your heart. Even then, you can move through the event with poise and personal power.

What are some strategies you’ve used to help you stay grounded and centered in the midst of difficulties? Creating an expansive toolbox for these circumstances can be helpful because different situations call for alternative solutions. Exercise, meditation, and having sincere friendships are just a few ideas that will support you.

This doesn’t mean you suppress your difficult emotions. It can be tempting but becomes a saboteur if you try to circumvent this step. Allow your feelings to be what they are, but know that you are not your emotions. You can observe them. You can validate the difficulty of the situation. Once you do this, it’s easier to get clarity about taking next steps.

As time goes on you begin to see that you are capable of surviving, even thriving, when things do not go as you had hoped and planned. You realize your own strength and capability. Eventually you may choose to use your own experience to educate and inspire others who are struggling.