Follow through on promises — here’s how

Unkept promises are like balloons without strings. There has been an assurance of some kind given, but it hasn’t been met. A promise has been made, but no real follow-through has taken place. Practically, this is an empty promise.

Have you ever been on the receiving end of such a scenario? How did you feel when you were promised something like an item, an experience or a change in someone’s behavior and it didn’t happen?

Chances are you may have felt duped, foolish or angry. Repeated empty promises often result in deeper feelings such as hurt or hopelessness.

Sometimes, other people get consumed with and succumb to forgetfulness, old behavior or are overwhelmed. They understandably have fallen short on their promises. It’s good to give grace to others when you can. However, ongoing patterns need to be addressed for your own well-being. This calls for verbal statements and healthy boundaries on your part. Have you ever been guilty of not fulfilling a promise? Perhaps you even solemnly swore, but you didn’t make good on that assurance. Your intention may have been sincere, but your promise was not executed. What were the implications for the other person? If you wish to improve in this area, reflect on these tips.

Refrain from promising something you realize you can’t deliver. Be aware of people-pleasing if that is one of your tendencies.

Be honest and transparent. Promwhat ise only is realistic and doable for you. It’s better to under-promise and over-deliver.

Write down reminders. It’s helpful to be prompted about the items that most matter.

Provide ongoing communiwith cation the other person. This gives the other person realtime information on your progress, and it gives you momentum.

Get ideas from others who are successful. Ask for help if you find you are stuck.

For The AJC