Learn about who you are now in renewal of self-discovery

Do you feel like you know who you are and what you enjoy? Are you someone who is deeply rooted in your identity? We often hear people say that they used to think they knew who they were until they entered a new chapter of their life. Then they often feel lost and confused. They ask themselves, “Who am I now?”

Transitions can create this identity confusion. People report feeling a disconnect from themselves. This can happen when parents die, especially if a person has lived their lives within the confines of familial expectations. When they are liberated to be and do whatever they wish, it can be a bit intimidating.

This state of mind and heart can also occur when divorcing or uncoupling, retiring or becoming an empty nester. It can also happen when people outgrow a group of friends, leave an organization or move to a different place. Everything suddenly becomes unfamiliar. The usual habits don’t have a place anymore. People habituate to comfort, even if it’s not that comfortable. How about you? Are you aware of places in your life where you might be staying longer than appropriate because they provide familiarity?

Although initially jolting, these transitions can provide the most meaningful and elevating experiences of your life. If you heed the call, you’re invited into a process of self-discovery. You are asked to learn more about who you are now. The you of yesterday is no longer helpful. You’re called to step into self-assessment and exploration. If you haven’t already been doing this work, it may feel awkward, tedious and scary at first. However, once you get the hang of it, it may just be one of the most rewarding seasons of your life.

You get to choose you now. You’re no longer attending to everyone else’s needs. Become your own best friend. You may even uncover a new vitality, joy and peace that you’ve not experienced before.