A sense of re­lief as the hol­i­days pass

The Buffalo News - - OPINION - Adele Haas, of Amherst, is happy for the nor­mal rhythm of life to re­turn.

Na­ture has a rhythm to it, spring fol­lows win­ter, sum­mer fol­lows spring and fall fol­lows sum­mer with a burst of color lead­ing us into De­cem­ber and into the hol­i­days de­scribed in song as “The most won­der­ful time of the year.”

Ex­cept when it isn’t. I shouldn’t be ad­mit­ting this, but I am so glad that the hol­i­days are over.

It’s the shop­ping, the hur­ry­ing, the not want­ing to dis­ap­point. It’s wor­ry­ing about the weather and the safety of those trav­el­ing home.

It’s the need­ing to be else­where, the visit to the hos­pi­tal, the ex­pec­ta­tion that you will be at Mom’s and the in-laws. It is the in­ter­rup­tion of the baby’s sched­ule, the jug­gling of the com­bi­na­tion of both the most won­der­ful and the most stress­ful time of the year and feel­ing guilty for not be­ing com­pletely happy.

It is a time when the rhythm of your life is thrown off as well, and there is sad­ness in miss­ing those gone from your life, be­cause of death, mil­i­tary de­ploy­ment or dis­tance, and then feel­ing happy can feel so wrong.

It seems that this spe­cial hol­i­day sea­son should bring only hap­pi­ness but it can­not be­cause life is so un­even.

There are those for whom per­sonal loss, or ill­ness or lone­li­ness pre­vents them from en­gag­ing in the joy of the sea­son, so it is a re­lief when the hol­i­days are over.

On a sim­pler level, I have of­ten said the day after Christ­mas or Thanks­giv­ing is my fa­vorite day, when the pres­sure is off, left­overs make meal­time a given, there are no presents to be bought or wrapped, or cards to be ad­dressed, and your day is back to be­ing your own.

I love my fam­ily and love the get-to­geth­ers but not the topsy turvy feel­ing that comes with them.

Un­easi­ness can come from the in­ter­rup­tion in the usual rhythm of your life.

Con­sider the re­cent weeks of Christ­mas and New Year’s. There were two weeks when the day of the week did not feel like the day it was sup­posed to be. Sun­day is easy, that’s the day you go to church and watch the Bills win (never give up that hope), but if you are in church again on a Tues­day be­cause it is Christ­mas, as it was in 2018, the day after the hol­i­day feels like Mon­day but it isn’t.

You then have a “short” week and you are left with the feel­ing that some­thing’s off. You would like to go with the flow, but you can’t be­cause you are thrown off when it doesn’t feel like the day it re­ally is.

Well at least we have al­most a year to re­cover. This love it/ hate it feel­ing about the hol­i­days will come again and it will be too much and too lit­tle like it al­ways is; it will be a time of sad­ness and hap­pi­ness and we will sur­vive be­cause we al­ways do, but for the time be­ing, kick off the shoes, have a re­lax­ing cup of hot choco­late, watch the snowflakes cover the lawns with a blan­ket of sparkle and hope, and en­joy that it is over.

In 2019, this new year of prom­ise, we will have Sun­days with more Bills’ wins than losses and this will be our norm, and the Mon­day after will feel like a Mon­day be­cause it is just a Mon­day, with a full week ahead, and rhythm is back into your life.

What­ever, carpe diem, en­joy any day off – when­ever it is – and go Bills, please?

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