Husband, wife should talk about how he ‘ lends’ money
My husband loaned a “dear friend” some money a year ago. She has yet to pay back a penny. When I ask him about it, he gets mad and tells me it’s none of my business. I have hinted to her about some large bills that we have to pay, to no avail.
Other than that, my husband and I have a great marriage and love each other very much. I just don’t like her taking advantage of his generosity. I know taking care of his friends gives him pleasure, but he has been burned before and I can see it happening again. What do I do?
I wish you had mentioned whether you work and the money your softtouch hubby gave his friend was partly earned by you. If that’s the case, I don’t blame you for being upset.
While I’m not sure you can prevent your husband from doing this, I do think you are within your rights to insist that before he does it, he discuss it with you. If he will do that, perhaps the two of you can find an alternative for the person other than giving out money.
My son passed away unexpectedly more than eight years ago. He was 21. At the time, he had been dating a very nice young lady. We kept in touch for a while after the funeral. I moved out of state — and things gradually tapered off.
I have been able to keep somewhat informed about her life because of social media and mutual friends. I recently learned she’s being married within the next two weeks. I am wondering whether it would be wrong to send a congratulatory card. I wish only continued happiness for them.
I see nothing wrong about sending her a nice card, and when you do, be sure to tell her not only that you wish her a happy future, but also that she holds a special place in your heart.
Would it be appropriate for someone to tell someone else’s children to stop doing something dangerous if the parent is not around? I’m talking about kids holding scissors the wrong way or running with them, pushing others, etc.
My children are in their teens now and know that such behavior is wrong. If it were the other way around, I would be grateful if someone cared enough to tell my kids that a behavior is wrong and/or dangerous.
How else would the children know if they weren’t warned? To speak up would be kind.