Cousin being insensitive regarding name for baby

what we’ve already endured. What can we do to make the situation more positive?

Dear Name Game: Your cousin must have the empathy of a garden snail. Has anyone suggested to her that there are other flower names besides Daisy? The possibilities include Dalia, Daphne and even Desert Rose (whose nickname could be “Desi,” which is cute).

If not, someone should do so before the baby arrives. But if she refuses to change her mind, you should probably start memorizing the Serenity Prayer.

Dear Abby: My husband and I have been married for 22 years. My grown children, three boys, have always just tolerated him. They say he talks too much, doesn’t listen and still treats the younger two like children.

They will no longer allow the grandchildren to come stay with me. They say my husband corrects them too harshly — which isn’t true. He is loud and quick to correct them only when their parents aren’t here to do it.

Our sons have offered no alternative solution.

My husband is trying to acknowledge their feelings and do better. How do we proceed? Counseling is out because we live in separate cities.

Dear Hurting Heart: Consider this from your sons’ perspective. When they hear from your grandchildren that your grouchy (but well-meaning) husband yelled at them, parents’ first instinct is to protect their kids.

I can’t guarantee that your sons won’t use emotional blackmail in the future, but I can offer two suggestions: Your husband should take a deep breath and count to 10 before he reacts, and he should defer discipline to Grandma.

If your sons remain dissatisfied, you’ll have to visit them instead of them visiting you.