Mom won’t cook for vegan child
Dear Harriette: I’ve wanted to become vegan for a few years now, but I still live in my parents’ home. My mom has made it clear that she won’t cook vegan, but she also gets offended when I say I would make my own meals. She thinks dinnertime is a bonding experience and somehow me choosing to not eat animal products would hinder it. I don’t get her perspective, but it’s gotten to the point where I’m ready to proceed to veganism even if she disapproves. What should I do? — Parents Disapprove Of Veganism
Dear Parents Disapprove Of Veganism: Changing your eating habits while living at home can be extremely difficult. Somehow your choices probably make your mother feel that you are rejecting the food she makes for you. While that is true, in a way, your choice to become vegan is not about her — it is about you. That’s what you need to get across to her. Tell her how much you appreciate her, and assure her that your choice today is not an indictment of her cooking. Point out the foods she cooks that you can eat so she can see that you are not rejecting everything.
Then implore her to let you help prepare the family meal. Offer to work in the kitchen side by side so that you can enjoy each other’s company. Continue to eat together. This will show your mother that dinner remains a special time for all, even though some of the menu items have changed.
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