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Hair client isn’t worth the hassle

- ANDREWS MCMEEL SYNDICATIO­N JEANNE PHILLIPS dearabby.com

Dear Abby: I am a hairstylis­t with a client who was referred to me by a mutual friend, “Rita,” from high school. Rita is also a client, and we go back 20-plus years. The client, who’s close friends with Rita, is picky and a terrible tipper.

She box colors her hair at home, but comes to me for her haircuts. I offer her 10% off of her haircut for prebooking, so she gets a $35 service for $31.50.

She usually tips me $3.50. She keeps asking me to sell her hair products at a wholesale cost, which I do for my family and for Rita, but no one else.

Cutting her hair is a chore, because she’s never completely happy with the service and has asked to come back for free retouching.

If she were anyone else, I’d part ways with her, but because of her close relationsh­ip with Rita, she sometimes comes to dinner with us on girls’ nights and is involved in our group chats.

Is there a discreet way to end this business/client relationsh­ip without screwing up my friendship with my high school pal? I’m tired of dealing with her, but I don’t know how to get out.

Cutting Her Out Dear Cutting: Handle this by telling Rita what you have written to me and explaining that the two of them may be friends, but you no longer want the woman as a client.

Then sweetly tell the woman the next time she calls that your profession­al relationsh­ip doesn’t seem to be a good fit because she has voiced dissatisfa­ction with your work. Then offer to refer her to someone else.

Not every client is a good fit and vice versa. It’s a fact of business life.

Dear Abby: I’ve been in a long-distance relationsh­ip for 21⁄2 years. We are now engaged, but haven’t set a date for our wedding.

We are both in the military, and we have maintained this relationsh­ip well. But there was a time before we dated that I was dating someone else. I ended that relationsh­ip, but haven’t healed from it because I see him at work often, and I still have feelings for him.

He lives in my neighborho­od, and I enjoy talking to him.

I like the attention he gives me, and I’m attracted to him. I blame the geographic­al distance from my fiancé for this.

I want someone close, and I would love for it to be the person I am engaged to, but although I try to abstain from this other person, I find myself drawn to him.

Caught Between Two Dear Caught: You say you have been together with your absent fiancé for 21⁄2 years, but are still carrying on an emotional affair with the man you broke up with. When you say you are “trying to abstain” from this person, clearly you can’t.

What is going on isn’t fair to the man you are engaged to.

If he knew, I’m sure he would agree. Do not chalk this up to “when I’m not with the man I love, I love the one I’m with.”

Be honest about what you really want, follow through, and you won’t be writing me again years from now asking what to do.

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