Initiate conversation, share facts about suicide

How do I talk to my child about suicide?

Talking about suicide can be challenging, but because it has become the leading cause of death among Colorado young people ages 10-24, these conversations must take place (coloradohealthinstitute.org/research/suicidescolorado-reach-all-time-high).

Suicide happens, and it does not discriminate based on age, gender, sexual orientation, economic status or ethnicity. Talking to our children about suicide needs to be as normal as talking to them about texting and driving, drugs and alcohol, and brushing their teeth.

The conversation should not wait until it is prompted by your child but be a part of everyday life. Contrary

to belief, talking about suicide does not put the idea in someone’s head. Talking about it can actually open up the lines of communication and possibly help your child feel comfortable bringing it up again, if needed.

First, it is helpful if you pick a good time to talk, perhaps while you are in the car, because it helps youths to be more attentive.

Second, practice what you will say to them and how you will start the conversation. The more comfortable you seem talking about it the more comfortable they will feel.

Third, be honest about your own feelings. Our children respond better to us when they see our vulnerabilities. Ask for their response by being direct. You might ask, “Have you ever thought about suicide?” Listen to what they say. Don’t under react or over react. Over reaction will result in cutting off future conversations, while under reacting is a way to make ourselves (not our child) feel better.

The Society for the Prevention of Teen Suicide uses the acronym FACTS to help detect warning signs:

Feelings — different than the norm, like hopelessness, worthlessness and anger.

Actions — different from your child’s norm, such as withdrawing, risky behaviors, drug use.

Changes — in behaviors, sleep, eating habits, loss of interest in friends.

Threats — talk of worthlessness, giving away possessions, obtaining pills/weapons, attempts.

Situations — triggers such as loss/death, break-ups, getting into trouble.

The Colorado Crisis Line is: 1-844-493-TALK (8255). Put the number in your phone, in their phone, on the fridge, in the car, and anywhere else your child spends time. September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month, so watch for insightful outreach from Community Reach Center, National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) and others.