Mom finds it hard to watch son in stress­ful mar­riage

The Herald (Rock Hill) - - Classified - JEANNEPHILLIPS Con­tact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby .com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069.

Dear Abby: Our youngest son re­cently mar­ried a woman who has an 18-year-old dis­abled daugh­ter, “Lau­ren.” The girl’s men­tal level is be­tween that of a 2- and 4-year-old. There have been phys­i­cal con­fronta­tions be­tween my new daugh­ter-in­law and her dis­abled daugh­ter.

Lau­ren is cur­rently in a day pro­gram, which doesn’t seem to be help­ing her. She has def­i­nite be­hav­ioral is­sues and has been put on a higher level of meds that haven’t helped.

My con­cern is, my son and his wife now have a 6-month-old son, and I worry about the baby in this home en­vi­ron­ment. Our son loves his wife and thought he could han­dle the chal­lenges that come with liv­ing with Lau­ren. He now says he thinks it is best to end the mar­riage, but he’s un­com­fort­able about giv­ing an ul­ti­ma­tum to his wife. He has a high-pres­sure job, and his new home en­vi­ron­ment is tak­ing a toll on him, phys­i­cally and men­tally. Any ad­vice for him is ap­pre­ci­ated.— Mom on the Side­lines

Dear Mom: I ap­pre­ci­ate your con­cern for the well-be­ing of your son, but if you are smart, you will not in­sert your­self into this sen­si­tive sit­u­a­tion. If your son feels so pres­sured he’s con­sid­er­ing end­ing his mar­riage, he should be telling his wife about it.

Dear Abby: I’m a 31-year-old wait­ress and proud athe­ist.

I have a reg­u­lar cus­tomer who comes in to the restau­rant about twice a month. He’s a pas­tor and one of the nicest guys I think I’ve ever met. He’ll of­ten bring along peo­ple from his con­gre­ga­tion and buy them din­ner. I have tremen­dous re­spect for him.

The prob­lem is, ev­ery time he comes in, he tries to get me to come to his church. At irst I was po­lite about it and just said no thank you. Re­cently it reached the point where I said firmly, “I don’t need your church.”

I don’t know what to do any­more. I wouldn’t feel right kick­ing him out of the restau­rant. Is there a mid­dle ground? — Non­be­liever in Ge­or­gia

Dear Non­be­liever: The pas­tor may be an evan­gel­i­cal, who feels that it is his duty to “spread the word.” The mid­dle ground, since he seems un­able to ac­cept your po­lite re­fusals, is to have an­other wait­ress serve him in­stead of you.

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