Best friend doesn’t share woman’s desire for intimacy
Dear Abby: I have been best friends with “Mickey” for about ive years. We spend every day together.
When our friendship started we were intimate a couple of times but have been platonic ever since. The problem is, I’m in love with him. He knows how I feel, and although he claims he doesn’t love me, he continues to spend every waking moment with me.
I should mention that Mickey is somewhat of a sex addict. It makes me self-conscious that he’s constantly thinking about sex but isn’t turned on by me.
I’m constantly thinking about how much I want to be with him. I even started working out at the gym, thinking maybe my recent weight gain was the problem.
I’m afraid if one of us starts dating someone else, our friendship will take a hit. Please give me some advice. — Girl in Love in Connecticut
Dear Girl in Love: As long as you have Mickey as your major preoccupation, you will not start dating anyone else. You need to stop thinking that his lack of desire for you is your fault, because it isn’t. Although it will be painful to call a halt to what’s going on so you can meet someone who CAN give you what you need, that’s what you should do. You are being used.
Dear Abby: A few years back, my 60-something-year-old single sister relocated to a mile from my home. Since then, MY husband has become HER husband. If something breaks, leaks or needs repair, she calls us.
I gave her our riding lawn mower and bought a newer model for us. There was nothing wrong with the mower, but she called us, crying, that it wouldn’t start. Hubby spent several hours of his one day off trying to get it running, to no avail.
He told her she needed to call a repair person. Instead, she started viewing do-it-yourself videos so she could handle it. She said she “hopes” she can ix it so “he won’t have to try to ix it again.” I’m ready to explode! Help! — Sick of Sis in the South
Dear Sick: The next time your sister asks for your husband’s handyman services, explain that his time off is limited and “suggest” AGAIN that she call a professional.