Best friend doesn’t share woman’s desire for in­ti­macy

The Island Packet - - Puzzles - Con­tact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby .com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069.

Dear Abby: I have been best friends with “Mickey” for about ive years. We spend ev­ery day to­gether.

When our friend­ship started we were in­ti­mate a cou­ple of times but have been pla­tonic ever since. The prob­lem is, I’m in love with him. He knows how I feel, and al­though he claims he doesn’t love me, he con­tin­ues to spend ev­ery wak­ing mo­ment with me.

I should men­tion that Mickey is some­what of a sex ad­dict. It makes me self-con­scious that he’s con­stantly think­ing about sex but isn’t turned on by me.

I’m con­stantly think­ing about how much I want to be with him. I even started work­ing out at the gym, think­ing maybe my re­cent weight gain was the prob­lem.

I’m afraid if one of us starts dat­ing some­one else, our friend­ship will take a hit. Please give me some ad­vice. — Girl in Love in Con­necti­cut

Dear Girl in Love: As long as you have Mickey as your ma­jor pre­oc­cu­pa­tion, you will not start dat­ing any­one else. You need to stop think­ing that his lack of desire for you is your fault, be­cause it isn’t. Al­though it will be painful to call a halt to what’s go­ing on so you can meet some­one who CAN give you what you need, that’s what you should do. You are be­ing used.

Dear Abby: A few years back, my 60-some­thing-year-old sin­gle sis­ter re­lo­cated to a mile from my home. Since then, MY hus­band has be­come HER hus­band. If some­thing breaks, leaks or needs re­pair, she calls us.

I gave her our rid­ing lawn mower and bought a newer model for us. There was noth­ing wrong with the mower, but she called us, cry­ing, that it wouldn’t start. Hubby spent sev­eral hours of his one day off try­ing to get it run­ning, to no avail.

He told her she needed to call a re­pair per­son. In­stead, she started view­ing do-it-your­self videos so she could han­dle it. She said she “hopes” she can ix it so “he won’t have to try to ix it again.” I’m ready to ex­plode! Help! — Sick of Sis in the South

Dear Sick: The next time your sis­ter asks for your hus­band’s handy­man ser­vices, ex­plain that his time off is lim­ited and “sug­gest” AGAIN that she call a pro­fes­sional.

JEANNE PHILLIPS

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