The white shoe rule, revisited
DEAR MISS MANNERS: My mother, sister and I find ourselves in disagreement.
My mother and sister claim that one can wear white shoes from Easter until Labor Day. I agree with them on Labor Day signifying the end of white shoe season, but I thought one should not wear white shoes until Memorial Day.
Please advise us on when we can properly be seen in our white sandals.
GENTLE READER: If only. No rule enrages Miss Manners’ Gentle Readers as much as the ban against wearing white shoes between Memorial Day and Labor Day. In tones of high indignation, they carry on about weather conditions and wardrobe demands.
Then they move on to attack etiquette itself. Such a rule is arbitrary, they point out. Of course.
To do away with rules would disappoint both people who enjoy order and respect ritual and the rule-breakers.
The advantage of the white shoe rule is that hardly anyone notices. But thank you for maintaining it.
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