The Macomb Daily

Woman’s judgmental nature unleashed on friend

- Dear Abby Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

DEAR ABBY » I had a close friend, “Kayleigh,” for about 10 years. She helped me through tough times and was always there for me. Now I feel like she has turned into someone else. For the last six months, she has been putting down everyone I love, even in front of my daughter. She sees no problem with it, nor does she have any remorse.

Kayleigh doesn’t have a healthy relationsh­ip with her family or in her love life. I believe I’m her only friend. When she does this, I feel like she’s disrespect­ing me. I have talked to her about it, but she never apologizes. She gets defensive and says it’s “just her opinion, it shouldn’t matter and I shouldn’t stay mad.”

I have told Kayleigh things in confidence, but she’s thrown them in my face, which made me feel insecure and small. I no longer talk to her about these issues because sometimes she brings it up with a jab. I can’t be friends with someone who acts this way. I have stopped talking to her, but now I’m having a hard time not feeling guilty. Advice?

— Friendless in Missouri

DEAR FRIENDLESS » Why would you continue to confide in someone who might use the informatio­n to make you feel bad? Backing away from a relationsh­ip like that is healthy. I have said before that not all friendship­s last forever, and this appears to be one of them.

Kayleigh’s refusal to apologize if you tell her she has made you feel disrespect­ed indicates she doesn’t care about the effect her comment had on you. Quit flogging yourself and get on with your life.

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