Husband keeps world updated on spouse’s health

DEAR ABBY » My husband and I have been married more than 30 years. In the last five, I have had so many doctor appointments, medical procedures and surgeries that I have lost count. My husband thinks it is perfectly fine to tell family, friends and strangers about my medical conditions, tests and surgeries.

I asked a friend if she would pray for an upcoming test. She said she would, and would continue to pray until I told her otherwise. I had the test; the results were great. My husband told my friend the results without first asking me if it was OK.

Now, Abby, I understand it was good news but, in my opinion, it was MY medical information and I had planned to tell her the next time I saw her, which was three days after the test. My husband thinks it’s “no big deal” to tell people about what’s going on with me medically. I disagree!

I have asked, even begged, my husband not to tell anyone about my medical stuff. I went so far as to go to two appointments without telling him. He was furious that I didn’t let him come along. I told him why he was left behind, but he still didn’t get it, or maybe, didn’t think my feelings were important. Am I being too sensitive or should he keep his mouth shut?

— Violated in Arkansas

DEAR VIOLATED » Your oversharing husband should respect your feelings and keep his mouth shut. You shouldn’t have had to beg him not to discuss your medical information with others. Would he be equally open to your telling folks about the state of his prostate, his Viagra consumption, his colonoscopy preps? Perhaps he will get the message if you start giving him a dose of his own medicine.