Spank­ing teaches chil­dren vi­o­lence is a solution

The Mercury News Weekend - - OPINION -

Thanks to Leonard Edwards for his ar­ti­cle “Let’s out­law spank­ing young chil­dren in Cal­i­for­nia” (Opin­ion sec­tion, Dec. 23).

Peo­ple ar­gue, “I was spanked as a child and I turned out fine.” Spank­ing teaches that it’s OK to solve prob­lems with vi­o­lence, for both kids — and adults. It of­ten re­sults in peo­ple be­ing more in­ter­ested in not be­ing caught than in re­ally do­ing well.

There are other forms of dis­ci­pline that teach self-con­trol, em­pa­thy and the dif­fer­ence be­tween right and wrong by in­still­ing morals.

Some adults that were hit as chil­dren iden­tify with the power of their ag­gres­sor, and grow up be­liev­ing in an au­thor­i­tar­ian par­ent­ing style where their pri­or­ity is to be seen as the most pow­er­ful. If oth­ers chal­lenge them, they think those chal­leng­ing them should be hit to “learn their place.”

Let’s out­law spank­ing not just of young chil­dren but also of all kids. — El­iz­a­beth Lee, li­censed mar­riage and fam­ily ther­a­pist, Palo Alto

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