Gentleman prefers women’s underwear
DEAR AMY: I’ve been divorced for several years. A lady friend and I are seeing more of each other, but, in old-fashioned terms, “taking it slow.”
Regardless, I’m sure we’ll soon end up being intimate.
For about the past 20 years, I’ve worn ladies’ underwear, mostly panties and camisoles, but, on occasion, bras and nighties.
I don’t wear outer women’s wear, make-up, heels, or otherwise had an interest in passing as a female.
I just find lingerie to be more comfortable, a secret thrill, and, quite honestly, fun. My ex-wife knew of and, while not thrilled, didn’t have a problem with it, as long as I didn’t wear hers.
I want to be honest with my friend, but don’t want to scare her away. Nor do I wish to hide this part of me or wear boring, uncomfortable men’s undies. What are your thoughts on when and how I should tell her? Not Quite Crossing DEAR CROSSING: This practice is honestly something you just enjoy and find fulfilling. You don’t need any reason other than this to justify your choice.
One of the most intimate things you can do is to talk about your sexuality, sexual preferences, practices and turn-ons before you become sexually involved.
You should not wait to surprise this person in the bedroom, but you should disclose this — just as you have here — forthrightly and honestly. DEAR AMY: I ended a two-year relationship with a man I promised I would always be friends with.
Later I realized how naive I was to promise this, and the reality began to settle in with just how twisted the relationship was. I now feel like a shadow of who I used to be before the relationship, and have virtually no confidence anymore.
Since the breakup, I’ve managed to push everyone away and have sold off almost everything I own so that I can run away.
I don’t want to hurt the people I’m close to by being emotionally unstable. I want to explore and figure out who I am now, but am I kidding myself? Runner
DEAR RUNNER: You are exhibiting classic a “fight or flight” response, and while this is your body’s healthy response to extreme stress, I am worried about you. Your instinct to leave will take you away from your sources of support. This could make things harder for you
You say you have isolated yourself from people who love you because you don’t want them to see you in your current unstable state. Please understand that it is the highest calling of friendship for people to be there for you when you need them.
If you feel like hurting yourself, please text Crisis Text Line at 741-741. Keep this in your “contacts” list on your phone (I have it in mine).