Worker suffers from overload
DEAR AMY >> I have a good job, with a great boss. I like some aspects of the work I do, because I can see that it is making a difference in my community.
The issue with my job is that it is very reactionary. I try to plan ahead, but my primary job consists of responding to requests as they come in. This means that when I show up for work one day, I may have a known big project that I’m working on, but then I will also face two or three other “urgent” or “immediate” needs that my boss also needs me to meet.
I’ve been at the job for a while, and I thought I was just getting on top of the dynamic nature, but now I’ve found myself getting even more projects handed to me. I am now struggling to manage everything I have and feel like it is constantly spinning out of control.
I find myself debating whether the issue is I just don’t fit well in this job (I’m more a big-picture than a detail-oriented person), and if I need to find a new job.
Is there a better way to manage the chaos? — Overwhelmed
DEAR OVERWHELMED >> You may see yourself as a “big-picture” person, but you have obviously proved your skill at putting out fires, which is likely why you are given a higher volume of immediate tasks and feeling overwhelmed now.
Aside from working on maximizing your time and stress management (arriving at work rested and healthy), you should approach your supervisor to discuss your workflow. It is in everyone’s best interest to maintain your peak competency. Assuming that you are performing at a high level, you might pursue a raise or a promotion, before deciding to leave altogether.
When you approach your supervisor, present this as positive proof of your skills, and be honest about the fact that you are on the verge of not being able to keep up.
DEAR AMY >> I was amused by your lack of perception in answering the letter from “Mother Brady,” the mother whose 15-yearold daughter wrestled her husband’s 16-year-old son.
Do you not see what is really going on here between these stepsiblings? There is obvious sexual tension between those two teens at that age. When that young girl has the boy pinned and is straddling him, what do you think is on his mind? The horseplay and wrestling are a way to make it appear innocent.
I would not worry about the fragile ego of the male here. I would be worried about the girl getting pregnant. — Mark
DEAR MARK >> You could be right. But assuming these teens are sexually attracted is the most obvious reaction. Many teens and stepsiblings are able to interact without becoming sexual.