Family living in fantasyland?

DEAR AMY >> Due to the pandemic, my husband and I have decided that we won’t see any extended family during the holidays. Of course, we want to, and our four kids will for sure be disappointed, but we’re just not that sure if it’s worth the risk.

I expressed as much to my sister-in-law, and she responded that they’ve decided that their family wouldn’t be gathering for the holidays, either, so they understand.

Then, my mother-in-law clarified that the reason my sister-in-law’s family won’t be gathering for the holidays is because they have decided to take a trip to Disney World instead.

She added that because it’s “dirt cheap right now” and likely won’t be crowded, it just made the most sense for them to go there at this time.

Amy, I am upset and disappointed that my sister-in-law and her family are choosing to do this.

I feel that it’s extremely irresponsible to come from what is right now one of the biggest coronavirus hot spots to a crowded place.

Behavior like this is why we as a nation are still dealing with this virus after so many months.

I know from past conversations that they are not worried for their family because they say they are perfectly healthy, and also they feel that anything outdoors is totally fine.

I really feel like saying something to them, but is it worth it?

I know that everybody is struggling to deal with this pandemic, and I don’t want to judge the way anyone else is coping. I also wonder if my negative judgment will impact our relationship.

— Self- righteous

Sister- in-law

DEAR SELF-RIGHTEOUS >> You are getting this information about your sister-in-law’s choices secondhand. Given both the reality of the pandemic, and your opinion about what they are doing, you should mainly be glad that you aren’t planning to see these family members anytime soon.

As Dr. Anthony Fauci has said, traveling any long distance creates multiple possible COVID exposures. So, while families may believe they are safe outdoors — masked and maintaining distance from other groups — getting to Florida and back carries a risk of exposing them to the virus.

Unless your sister-inlaw seeks you out to tell you about this trip, asking for your opinion, why would you volunteer it? This family has access to the same information you have access to; they have evidently put together their own risk assessment and have decided to plow ahead with their plans.

DEAR AMY >> “Sexless at 60” said that she and her husband had stopped having sex. I hope they both get their hormone levels checked. My husband and I had a similar problem. Working it through with our doctors helped to restore our libidos.

— Happier

DEAR HAPPIER >> Absolutely. Many readers have responded with similar success stories.