Couple disagree about a cat’s declining health

Dear Abby: My wife and I have been together 39 years. We’ve always had dogs and cats, and we currently have two of each. The cats and I tend to ignore each other.

We have one who’s 20 years old. I suspect he has dementia. He stumbles into walls and cabinets and has fallen down the stairs a number of times. Recently, he has been peeing in my den and garage. That, I can’t ignore.

I think it’s time to put the cat down. My wife is calling me cold and heartless. I’m starting to hate that cat.

Favors Dogs in El Paso

Dear Favors Dogs: That poor animal should be examined by a veterinarian. As to the cat’s inappropriate choice of a place to relieve himself, the problem may be as simple as a curable bladder infection — unless he has picked up on the fact that you would like to see him dead and is doing it to get back at you.

Dear Abby: My boyfriend, “Tom,” and I just spent the weekend with his older brother, “George.” George spent most of the weekend mocking and mimicking me, and he even made fun of my chronic health condition. Tom kept telling me not to be so sensitive and to ignore George’s “sense of humor.” Afterward, I told Tom I wouldn’t remain silent in the future, and I wished he had said something like, “That’s enough, George,” on my behalf.

Tom insists it isn’t his place. He thinks I should accept George as he is “since we all have our faults.” While

I want to maintain my relationship with Tom, I need to limit my exposure to George, whose behavior I regard as abusive. Does this seem reasonable?

Tired of the Teasing

Dear Tired: Reasonable, yes. Whether it is possible may be questionable. I agree that George’s behavior was abusive. It’s a shame Tom was afraid to stand up to his older brother, but because he wouldn’t intervene, you would have been within your rights to stand up for yourself, tell him his ridicule wasn’t funny and leave. Dear Abby: I am 48 and married to a widower in his early 60s. Not long ago we moved into a 55-plus community. The problem is, every time we meet someone, they ask my husband why he robbed the cradle. I’m sick of hearing it. My husband is a warm, caring, loving man, who just laughs and says, “Yep!” How can I rebut those comments when they come, because my husband doesn’t seem to be able? He wants everyone to like him, so he never makes waves.

Dear Not From The Cradle:

The comments aren’t meant as an attack on your marriage. The next time someone says it, pipe up and say, “We were BOTH old enough to know what we wanted!”