Friend doesn’t share woman’s desire
Dear Abby: I have been best friends with “Mickey” for about five years. We spend every day together and go out to dinner/movies/events, etc. He sleeps over at my house, and I cook for him almost every night.
When our friendship started we were intimate a couple of times but have been strictly platonic ever since. The problem is, I’m in love with him. He knows how I feel, and although he claims he doesn’t love me, he continues to spend every waking moment with me and is always trying to better me. We do pretty much everything a couple would do, minus the physical contact.
I don’t want to lose him. I value the bond we share and what we have together, but I’m constantly thinking about how much I love him and want to be with him.
I know he “loves” me, but he isn’t attracted to me. I’m afraid if one of us starts dating someone else, our friendship will take a hit. Please give me some advice.
Girl In Love In Connecticut
Dear Girl In Love: As long as you have Mickey as your major preoccupation, you will not start dating anyone else. Although it will be painful to call a halt to what’s going on so you can meet someone who CAN give you what you need, that’s what you should do. The relationship you’re in is masochistic. You are being used, and it’s not fair to you.
Dear Abby: A few years back, my 60-something-yearold single sister relocated from a different state to a mile from my home. Since then, MY husband has become HER husband. If something breaks, leaks or needs repair, she calls us. I “get” to handle the easy stuff, and hubby does the heavy-duty stuff.
I gave her our riding lawn mower and bought a newer model for us. There was nothing wrong with the mower we gave her, but she called us, crying, that it wouldn’t start. Hubby spent several hours of his one day off trying to get it running, to no avail. I’m ready to explode! I feel like we’re being taken advantage of. Help!
Sick Of Sis In The South
Dear Sick: Because you feel you and your husband are being taken advantage of, the next time your sister asks for your husband’s handyman services, explain that his time off is limited and “suggest” AGAIN that she call a professional.
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