Friend lets woman take the fall for her divorce

The News Tribune - - Puzzles - JEANNE PHILLIPS Con­tact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby .com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069.

Dear Abby: “Dar­lene” and I have been friends for 40 years. She moved to Ari­zona with me in the ’80s from Michi­gan. Her boyfriend drove out and con­vinced her to re­turn to Michi­gan and get mar­ried, which she did, but she’s al­ways hated Michi­gan. She raised two girls. I was al­ways called “Aunt” and was con­sid­ered close.

Years passed and the mar­riage was strug­gling. I in­vited Dar­lene to come and visit to get away for a bit. She fell right back in love with Ari­zona. She ex­pressed her un­hap­pi­ness in the mar­riage, and I told her that if she ever needed a place to stay, she could live with me. She came out for an­other visit, found a job and de­cided to stay.

Her girls, now in their early 20s, were shocked and hurt by their mom’s de­ci­sion to divorce their fa­ther. One of them blames me, blocked me on Face­book and no longer talks to me. It has been three years, and when Dar­lene’s daugh­ter comes to visit, I have to stay away. Dar­lene re­fuses to talk to the daugh­ter to smooth things out be­tween us. I think she should do some­thing to de­fend me. Am I wrong? — Wrongly Blamed in the West

Dear Wrongly Blamed:

No, you are not wrong. You did Dar­lene a fa­vor by wel­com­ing her to Ari­zona, but you were not re­spon­si­ble for her divorce. It ap­pears no good deed goes un­pun­ished. She should not be let­ting you take the heat for the fact she left her hus­band.

Dar­lene should have ex­plained to her daugh­ter the mar­riage was an un­happy one for a long time, and re­gard­less of where she chose to live af­ter­ward, it wouldn’t have been near their fa­ther. Dar­lene and her daugh­ter owe you an apol­ogy. Be­cause you are re­quired to stay away when Daugh­ter vis­its, per­haps it would be bet­ter if Dar­lene found an­other place to live rather than your home.

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