Dysfunctional affairs collide at work

Dear Abby: I’m a supervisor at my job and have feelings for a married man who also works here. We have only had sex once, but I know I cannot continue this “relationship.”

It breaks my heart because I care for him deeply, and IF he was single, this is someone I could actually have a relationship with. He’s open with his wife regarding dating other people. It seems she’s also “talking” to another man outside of their marriage.

Am I delusional to think he will leave her for me? I think he still loves his wife.

I’m also married, but my husband lives 7,000 miles away. After seven years, his immigration status still needs to be resolved. I’ll probably ask him for a divorce because I’m no longer in love with the man I married. He knows I have been dating someone because I told him.

In Knots in New York Dear In Knots: You didn’t mention whether there are policies in your business about fraternizing, but if there are, then what you have been doing could get you fired.

Because of the unique circumstances of your marriage, you have some serious decisions to make. Do not drag your co-worker into it. IF there is the possibility of a future with him, he also needs to decide if he is satisfied with the status quo before making any other commitments. For your sake and his, back off.

Dear Abby: My husband of more than 20 years has taken to hiding decorative accessories that he doesn’t like. An example: A designer bowl set packaged in a box suddenly disappeared from the cupboard. The plug-in air freshener from my home office also went missing. A lamp I moved from the living room to the foyer appeared on my bookcase two hours later. My complaints fall on deaf ears. His favorite coffee mug and iPad are about to mysteriously vanish. Can you talk some sense into him?

Hide and Seek in Georgia

Dear Hide: Is this recent behavior, or has your husband been hiding things all during your marriage? If it’s recent, your husband may need a medical checkup, because what you are describing can be a symptom of dementia. If he’s mentally fit, you two need to work on sharpening your communication skills and, perhaps, agree that before any more items are brought into the home the TWO of you share, they’re not something either of you will hate.