Hearing loss affects social outings
Dear Abby: We live in a retirement community. Many of our friends have hearing loss that ranges from slight to profound. While most of them have the money to travel the globe, they don’t invest in hearing aids, which confounds us.
In restaurants, they keep bending their ears toward us and saying “Eh?” to just about every word. We are careful to enunciate clearly for their benefit, but it doesn’t help much. Our natural inclination is to speak louder, which has embarrassed us several times as other diners grew quiet and turned to look at us. We find ourselves declining invitations with them more often in favor of electronic communication. Do you have any suggestions?
Working Ears In Florida
Dear Working Ears:
Yes, I do. Tell these people privately that they may need to get their hearing checked because you are having to shout when you go out in public.
Dear Abby:
My son and his fiancee are getting married next month. They’re calling it an elopement, but although they have been telling everyone when and where the wedding is, they are not formally inviting anyone. I have come to terms with that. This is my only child, and I have always dreamed about being part of this milestone in his life.
It is hurting me terribly to not be there. They have also decided a reception in their honor will be held six months afterward. Is this proper etiquette?
Broken-Hearted Mother
Dear Mother:
The rigid rules of etiquette have loosened considerably in recent years. Many younger people prefer the casual over the formal. Please don’t lay the sole blame on your soon-to-be daughter-in-law without first discussing this with your son, because you may be shocked to learn this nontraditional wedding is happening with his enthusiastic blessing. If that’s the case, quietly let go of your “dream.”
As to not being with your son on this special day, if you haven’t received a formal invitation, SHOW UP WITH A SMILE ANYWAY and offer your services as a witness. Those who attend the wedding should be invited to the reception, and if they attend the reception, they should come with a gift in hand.