Murder throws wedding plans into question
DEAR ABBY: My fiancee and I are getting married next summer. Last summer, my closest friend — a woman — was murdered. Her husband was charged with the crime. Both of them were to be a part of the wedding party. The husband, “Frank,” was to be my best man. I’m at a loss about how to deal with this. I can’t believe that Frank is guilty, but the trial isn’t likely to be finished by the date of the wedding. However, he is likely to be out on bail. I don’t want to abandon him, but his presence would unnerve many of the guests. Do I include him?
Unsure in Canada DEAR UNSURE: Considering the notoriety that now surrounds Frank, he should not be your best man. His presence at the altar would distract from the bride, who is supposed to be the center of attention. However, I don’t think you should rescind your friend’s invitation to attend the wedding, because he is innocent until PROVEN guilty.
DEAR ABBY: My girlfriend of six years spends weekends at my house, where she has her own room with her clothing and
DEAR ABBY personal things. One thing she never seems to have is underwear. So I shopped online and put a dozen pair in her dresser drawer. I know her size, style and color preference. She made no comment. And when I asked, she said, “What kind of boyfriend does that? It’s SOOO weird.” Abby, I was crushed. Did I go too far? Please tell me I’m not weird.
Dismayed in Dunkirk, N.Y.
DISMAYED: You’re not weird. You are a giver, and it is a trait that should be appreciated. You did not deserve the putdown. Many women would have been touched by your thoughtfulness. I don’t know what kind of men your girlfriend has had in her life before you came along, but it seems they didn’t spoil her the way you’re trying to.
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