Should host in­vite idea dis­cus­sion to party?

The Oklahoman - - WEATHER - BY CAL­LIE ATHEY, LIL­LIE-BETH BRINKMAN AND HE­LEN FORD WAL­LACE Cal­lie Athey is 20-some­thing, Lil­lie-Beth Brinkman is in her 40s, and social colum­nist He­len Ford Wal­lace is 60-plus. To ask an eti­quette ques­tion, email he­len.wal­[email protected]

QUES­TION: I read about a party in the lo­cal news­pa­per and copied the menu and dec­o­ra­tions for my own party. It was a huge suc­cess, but should I have told the guests about lift­ing the ideas?

CAL­LIE’S AN­SWER: Only if you feel like it! It isn’t wrong to copy in that way. Im­i­ta­tion is the big­gest form of flat­tery. That is a com­pli­ment in my book.

LIL­LIE-BETH’S AN­SWER: I don’t think you have to an­nounce to each guest as they ar­rive that you copied the idea, but it’s al­ways nice to give credit to the cre­ative peo­ple be­hind your own suc­cess. If guests com­pli­ment you on the party, you could say you got your ideas from XYZ source. The ex­e­cu­tion of these ideas per­fectly falls solely on you, but I also like it when peo­ple credit their in­spi­ra­tion in­stead of lift­ing ideas silently. I don’t think it de­tracts from your suc­cess at all. Mag­a­zines know they serve this role, and I would credit them, too. But if I were us­ing the menu and dec­o­ra­tions from a lo­cal party as my own, I would def­i­nitely make it a point to give the source a nod.

HE­LEN’S AN­SWER: How great it is that our news­pa­pers and mag­a­zines have such good ideas for our par­ties. We can get dec­o­rat­ing thoughts from one and menu ideas from an­other. Then we can make the ideas our own and per­son­al­ize them for the oc­ca­sion. Keep read­ing!

GUEST’S AN­SWER:Linda Miller, fash­ion writer and author of Fash­ion Blog “Fash­ion Mat­ters”: Who among us doesn’t find in­spi­ra­tion for fash­ion, dec­o­rat­ing, food or par­ties in mag­a­zines, on­line, on tele­vi­sion or even the news­pa­per?

We see what we like and make it our own. If some­one had specif­i­cally asked how you came up with the idea or theme, it would have been fine to share. But it’s not some­thing you have to an­nounce as guests come in the door.

Ask an eti­quette ques­tion; get sev­eral an­swers; de­cide for your­self how to han­dle the sit­u­a­tion.

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