Family estrangement hard to explain to kids
Dear Abby: I am a woman who has been through a lot. I grew up thinking my grandmother was my mother, my mother was my sister, my uncle was my brother, and my own siblings my nieces and nephews. A “family issue” brought it all out in the open, and now I am estranged from my family.
My grandmother who adopted me passed away a few years ago. The issue was lies and the fact that I was molested, which is why my grandmother stepped in. How do I explain to my children, 6 and 9, that we don’t have family on my side?
– Estranged in New Mexico
Dear Estranged: Your family situation is complicated, and I don’t think it would be appropriate for you to reveal the details until your children are quite a bit more mature.
In the meantime, tell them you will explain when they are older. At some point they may need the information in case any of your relatives try to contact them in the future.
Dear Abby: I am a 64-year-old woman. For once in my life, my hair is long, about elbow length. My son visits me about once every three months. Today when he arrived, the first words out of his mouth were, “You look like a witch!” It made me feel very sad. He then proceeded to tell me no one over the age of 40 should wear long hair. What do you think?
– Sad Mom in Colorado
Dear Sad Mom: I think that at age 64, you can wear your hair any way you like it. Many women (and men) have allowed their hair to grow since the pandemic began, regardless of age. If you like your hair long, keep it that way. Do not allow your tactless son to be your fashion arbiter. Go, Rapunzel!