Job search stress impacts family’s interactions
Dear Abby: I am without a job. I hesitated to inform my mother because I was sure her reaction would only add to my stress. I was right. She constantly corners me about my efforts to find a job. I talk to her nearly every day to keep up with how she and my stepfather are doing. I now find ways to shorten our conversations.
I can get a job or two for the time being. However, I’m trying to hold out for a job or career that connects to my soul passion. Working for decades in a job that sustains me and my children is no match for the longing of my passion. (I’m still not sure what it is.)
How do I curb my mother’s pushing me for a resolution without coming off as annoyed, which I am? – Annoyed in Alabama
Dear Annoyed: I will try. Because you still aren’t sure what your “soul passion” is, it’s time to find out. A place to start might be a career counseling center (some universities have them). Contact one or more and inquire whether they offer career counseling and aptitude testing. The test results will tell you what you are best suited for.
Of course, this service is not offered for free, which is why you might want to buckle down and take a job or two in the meantime to afford it, as well as to feed your little family.
Dear Abby: I’ve been seeing a man, “Carson,” on and off for about five years. Last year, when I asked him if we were exclusive, he said no, so I went and slept with an ex and became pregnant. I didn’t reach out to Carson because I thought the baby belonged to my ex, but when the baby was born I realized she might be Carson’s. When I told him, he denied she was his but still rekindled our relationship. Abby, he disappears frequently and doesn’t answer my calls. What should I do? – Hopeless Romantic in Pennsylvania
Dear Hopeless Romantic: Have your child DNA-tested. If it proves she IS Carson’s, he should be contributing to his daughter’s support. (The same goes for anyone you think could be the father.) It’s important that you understand this man behaves the way he does because he is not in love with you and doesn’t care about your feelings. He sees other women, just as he did the first time around. If this is the way you want to be treated, continue this relationship. If, however, you think you deserve something better, end this poor excuse for a romance now.