When stress begins to feel normal, our bodies send warnings
Stress is a bodily function that provides energy to move through a change in life. We mostly associate the word stress with distress — a relationship ending, a job lost, a child in trouble, a health issue, death of a loved one. But there is also good stress. It is called "eustress" — a job promotion, new baby, new house, new relationship, an upcoming wedding, holidays. All of these can be wonderful and exciting — the “highs” of life.
Distress or eustress require a kind of adjustment to be made because both involve change. And change, wanted or not, sets up a stress reaction in our bodies. Good or bad, the body tenses to make the changes required — a rush of adrenaline, an increase in heart rate, blood pressure, muscle tension, and metabolism. When the stressor has been resolved, our bodies need a time of relaxation and restoration. That requires body awareness and good coping skills.
We get into trouble when tense begins to feel normal. The good news is when we don’t know how to relax and calm, our bodies send warning signals.
The "Stress Warning Signals" handout came from the Mind, Body Clinic at Harvard Medical School. Anything on the chart is a normal human reaction to life changes, but we are not meant to live that way indefinitely. And if you check several, saying, “This is just the way I am,” then you are carrying stress, not managing it.
Find your warning signals. Give thought to what you can do to relax and calm and bring your body back into balance.
My friend Nancy Brawner takes ballet lessons. She began four years ago when she celebrated her 80th birthday and decided she needed a new challenge. No, she did not take ballet as a child.
The classes are available by virtue of a grant for community outreach by Oklahoma City ballet. She says the teachers are great and classes are fun — and free. She says it has been really good for her brain, balance, and just having fun.
Whether it is ballet, yoga, a personal trainer or a long walk, learn to pay attention to warning signals and create a plan to care for yourself.
Charlotte Lankard is a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice. Contact her at clankard@cox.net.
Stress Warning Signals
Physical symptoms •Headaches •Indegestions •Stomach aches •Back pain •Tight neck, shoulders
Emotional symptoms •Crying •Nervousness, anxiety •Edginess, ready to explode •Overwhelming sense of pressure •Easily upset
Spiritual symptoms •Emptiness •Unforgiving •Martyrdom •Loss of direction •Cynicism
Behavioral symptoms
•Bossiness •Attitude critical of others •Overuse of alcohol •Compulsive eating •Inability to get things done
Cognitive symptoms •Trouble thinking clearly •Forgetfulness •Inability to make decisions •Constant worry •Loss of sense of humor
Relational symptoms •Isolation •Resentment •Lashing out •Nagging •Distrust