Man’s tat­too with ex-wife’s name an­noys girl­friend

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DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend is di­vorced. His ex’s name is tat­tooed on his arm. Al­though I don’t like it, I re­al­ize that it was long ago and be­fore I came into the pic­ture.

As we have grown closer over the last two years, I’m of­ten tempted to ask him to have it re­moved or cov­ered up. I think it’s tacky, and I don’t like it AT ALL. I know I can’t de­mand he re­move it, but would a gen­tle re­quest do? Or should I wait un­til I have more of a for­mal sta­tus in his life? — LOOK­ING AWAY IN THE SOUTH

DEAR LOOK­ING AWAY: Tat­too re­moval isn’t as easy as wav­ing a magic wand and presto! — it’s gone.

The process can take sev­eral ses­sions, can be quite painful, and it must be done by a pro­fes­sional.

If this is so im­por­tant to you that you would put him through that, then ask him nicely. When you do it is up to you.

You could jok­ingly ask him to have a cir­cle with a di­ag­o­nal line through it added to his ex’s name.

DEAR ABBY: My best friend of 25 years just got en­gaged. I sus­pect her fi­ance is gay or there’s some­thing se­ri­ously wrong with him. They have been dat­ing for eight months and he hasn’t once tried to have sex with her.

He has used ev­ery ex­cuse un­der the sun as to why (bad back, tired, etc.).

He re­cently pro­posed to her in a pub­lic place in front of his fam­ily. I don’t think he knows the real her, and I don’t think she un­der­stands the se­ri­ous im­pli­ca­tions of her de­ci­sion to marry him when sex­ual in­ti­macy was so im­por­tant to her be­fore.

She once told me she would not marry a man with­out first hav­ing sex with him, and that a sex­less life is her big­gest fear.

I feel I should speak up as her best friend. Should I? — SEE­ING RED FLAGS IN GE­OR­GIA

DEAR SEE­ING: Yes. And when you do, urge her to get into pre­mar­i­tal coun­sel­ing with her fi­ance. Dur­ing the ses­sions, mat­ters like sex, fi­nances and child-rear­ing should be dis­cussed so there won’t be any “sur­prises” later.

Re­peat your sug­ges­tion, if nec­es­sary, un­til she reaches the al­tar. Let’s hope she lis­tens to you be­cause his fa­tigue and bad back won’t mag­i­cally dis­ap­pear af­ter they say “I do.”

DEAR ABBY: A lit­tle back­story be­fore my ques­tion. I am 39 and the mother of three beau­ti­ful daugh­ters, ages 18, 12 and 8. I am get­ting a di­vorce. It’s an am­i­ca­ble one (thank good­ness), and my girls are do­ing pretty OK with the news.

Dur­ing this last year, I grad­u­ated with my AA de­gree.

I am very proud of the achieve­ment, but have never had a cel­e­bra­tion.

Would it be in bad taste to have a house­warm­ing, grad­u­a­tion and al­most-40 birth­day party (my birth­day is on a ma­jor hol­i­day, and my friends are usu­ally busy do­ing other things that night) and ask for gifts for my new house and the girls’ bed­rooms? — CEL­E­BRAT­ING IN IDAHO

DEAR CEL­E­BRAT­ING: A party would be won­der­ful be­cause you have much to cel­e­brate.

Send in­vi­ta­tions de­scrib­ing it as a “house­warm­ing, grad­u­a­tion cel­e­bra­tion and 40th birth­day party,” but do NOT men­tion gifts on the in­vi­ta­tion.

If some­one asks about it, feel free to tell the per­son.

But to ask for gifts on an in­vi­ta­tion is a no-no.

Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069.

Jeanne Phillips

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