Valen­tines to our troops

The Saratogian (Saratoga, NY) - - YOUR DAILY BREAK -

DEAR AN­NIE >> My for­mer boyfriend has a wife in the Philip­pines. He used to some­times say, “Oh, stay with me, and we can keep sleep­ing to­gether even when she moves to this coun­try.” Why would some­one say some­thing like that? I have a dif­fi­cult time fig­ur­ing out what he re­ally meant.

— Per­plexed Ex

DEAR PER­PLEXED >> I have a harder time un­der­stand­ing why you stuck around long enough for him to say that more than once. Clearly, he has no re­spect for you or for his wife. But the most im­por­tant word in your let­ter is “for­mer.” Thank good­ness that he’s no longer your boyfriend. Pity to that woman if she’s still his wife.

DEAR AN­NIE >> You in­di­cated that it was too late to send cards to our sailors and troops for Christ­mas. How’s about a lit­tle ad­vance plan­ning! Valen­tine’s Day is only about four weeks away. How can read­ers send cards to troops in cel­e­bra­tion of that hol­i­day?

— Steve, USAF (re­tired)

DEAR STEVE >> This is a great idea. You can send valen­tines to de­ployed troops via Hugs for Sol­diers. Please ad­here to the fol­low­ing guide­lines:

— Do not send cards larger than 8 1/2x11 inches.

— Do not use glit­ter or ma­te­ri­als that eas­ily break off. — Keep your mes­sages pos­i­tive. — Do not put in­di­vid­ual valen­tines in sealed en­velopes. Bun­dle cards and send in a sin­gle large en­ve­lope or box.

Mail them to Hugs for Sol­diers, P.O. Box 2887, Du­luth, GA, 30096. For more tips, in­clud­ing in­struc­tions for ship­ping your cards via FedEx or UPS, visit https://www.hugs­for­sol­­tine-cards.

DEAR AN­NIE >> This is in re­sponse to “Pre­fer­ring Tra­di­tion.” I never liked when cou­ples asked wed­ding guests to give cash in­stead of gifts, ei­ther. But my daugh­ter and her hus­band ended up do­ing this. Many friends and rel­a­tives opted to give them gifts in­stead of cash.

Well, my daugh­ter and her now hus­band live in San Francisco, Cal­i­for­nia, and the wed­ding was at home in the Mid­west. They came by plane. The gifts had to go by mail, so it fell on Mom and Dad to box and mail all the gifts. We started to ship some, but the cost be­came so high that we in­stead de­cided to load up an SUV, take time off work and make a trip West. It was a real pain, box­ing up glass. Now I think cash would have been nicer.

— John K.

DEAR JOHN K. >> It was aw­fully gen­er­ous of you and your wife to spend so much time and money on get­ting your daugh­ter and son-in-law their presents. I hope that huge gift didn’t go un­ap­pre­ci­ated.

DEAR AN­NIE >> I have great em­pa­thy for “Thanks for Not Shar­ing,” the per­son who wrote about the noise lev­els in air­ports and on buses and trains thanks to peo­ple who play mu­sic and videos on speak­ers in­stead of through head­phones.

I travel in Eng­land to visit fam­ily and there I have the op­tion to re­serve a seat in the “quiet car” — which I love. No con­ver­sa­tional cell­phone use is al­lowed — only texts — and no noisy video games are al­lowed, ei­ther.

I wish we could have the same ser­vice here. It would be a re­lief for peo­ple who suf­fer from noise pol­lu­tion. There are quiet ar­eas in some air­ports, if you look for them. Many thanks for shar­ing.

— Janet A. in Mon­treal

DEAR JANET >> Si­lence is golden — maybe even plat­inum, at this point. Quiet cars do ex­ist on Am­trak trains here in the U.S., but only in the North­east. Here’s hop­ing they make their way through the rest of the coun­try.

“Ask Me Any­thing: A Year of Ad­vice From Dear An­nie” is out now! An­nie Lane’s de­but book — fea­tur­ing fa­vorite col­umns on love, friend­ship, fam­ily and eti­quette — is avail­able as a paperback and e-book. Visit http://www.cre­ator­spub­lish­ for more in­for­ma­tion. Send your ques­tions for An­nie Lane to dear­an­[email protected]­

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