The Saratogian (Saratoga, NY)

Only a facetime away

- Annie Lane

DEAR ANNIE » I have never written to a columnist in my 70 years, but “Sad and Somewhat Angry Granny,” whose daughter-in-law wouldn’t allow her kids to open any of the Christmas gifts Granny brought them overseas before Christmas Day, really struck a chord with me.

What a wonderful opportunit­y her daughterin-law missed to model flexibilit­y, kindness and care. Those grandchild­ren, ages 3, 6 and 9, are perfectly capable of understand­ing the situation.

Perhaps next time they could FaceTime on Christmas morning, or Christmas Eve, depending on the time difference.

Granny was most gracious in not pressing the issue. She is a great model for her grandchild­ren. — FL Grandma With Grandkids in CA, MI,

NY and NC

DEAR GRANDMA » Iam printing your letter to highlight these wonderful character traits that we should teach our children — and practice ourselves. Flexibilit­y, kindness and care go a long way in leading a happier life. Your suggestion to video conference with the grandkids is great, and several other readers, such as the next one, wrote to offer it as well.

DEAR ANNIE » This is a suggestion for “Sad and Somewhat Angry Granny.” I also have grandchild­ren overseas. My daughter has me on FaceTime when her children open presents or even just boxes of stuff that I have sent them.

It’s not the same as being there, but I still get to see and share their joy and excitement. My 4-year-old grandson says, “This box is from you, Grandma,” and my heart melts. In this day of technology, there is no reason to miss these special events.

— Grandma G

DEAR GRANDMA G » Quality time is priceless for grandparen­ts and grandchild­ren alike. You reminded us that nowadays, we’re all just a FaceTime away, no matter the distance.

DEAR ANNIE » It means a lot to me that you printed my tribute to Dr. Martin Luther King in your column, “Reflecting on King’s Legacy.” Thank you very much for allowing me to share my sentiments with your readers. I hope it interested others in learning more about Dr. King’s legacy.

— John H.

DEAR JOHN H. » And thank you for giving us all the opportunit­y to reflect on motivating and powerful contributi­on of Dr. King.

DEAR ANNIE » I want to thank you again for printing my letter, “Grieving Mom of a Vet.” I just thought it was the perfect time to have it printed. If it helps someone, wow. Suicide cannot be swept under the carpet.

I love your column. Your advice is spot on — so much common sense and compassion. I like you better than Ann Landers. Way to go! — Grieving Mom of a Vet

DEAR GRIEVING MOM OF AVET» Thank you for your follow-up letter. Your kind words mean a great deal to me. Again, I am so sorry for your loss. Best wishes.

“Ask Me Anything: A Year of Advice From Dear Annie” is out now! Annie Lane’s debut book — featuring favorite columns on love, friendship, family and etiquette — is available as a paperback and e-book. Visit http://www.creatorspu­blishing.com for more informatio­n. Send your questions for Annie Lane to dearannie@creators.com.

Flexibilit­y, kindness and care go a long way in leading a happier life.

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