Us­ing art to gain adult con­tact

The Sun Herald (Sunday) - - Television -

DEAR ABBY: I am a shy, 30-year-old woman. I stay at home with our 10-month-old, pri­mar­ily be­cause of our fam­ily’s fi­nan­cial sit­u­a­tion.

I am gifted in the vis­ual arts, but be­cause I don’t have an art de­gree, I’m un­able to pur­sue a pro­fes­sional job in the arts. In­stead, I have been ad­ver­tis­ing to teach pri­vate art lessons at home. One month in, I have one stu­dent.

The past months have been lonely, and I am aching for friend­ship. My hus­band doesn’t seem to un­der­stand this. We know one fam­ily, but we are not close. I am con­sid­er­ing of­fer­ing free lessons to their kinder­gart­ner be­cause it would not only help me to de­velop pro­fes­sion­ally, but also give me some adult in­ter­ac­tion, which I des­per­ately need. Again, my hus­band doesn’t un­der­stand this, and doesn’t want me to teach this child for free. How can I make him see? — Un­ful­filled Artist in Penn­syl­va­nia

DEAR ARTIST: Your hus­band ap­pears to be un­usu­ally con­trol­ling. Have you told him the rea­son you want to give the fam­ily free art lessons is so you can have some much-needed adult in­ter­ac­tion? If you haven’t, you should, rather than keep silent.

He should not be iso­lat­ing you the way he ap­pears to be, which strikes me as wor­ri­some. Is his mo­ti­va­tion for keep­ing you in the house and away from oth­ers the money or some­thing else?

I think you should try do­ing what you have in mind and see how it works out. And if there are other young moth­ers in your area who gather so their chil­dren can so­cial­ize, per­haps you could at­tend and make some friend­ships there. If your hus­band con­tin­ues to be as pos­ses­sive as he ap­pears to be, con­sider call­ing the Na­tional Do­mes­tic Vi­o­lence Hot­line at (800) 799-7233 for sug­ges­tions.

P.S. I en­cour­age you to go for that de­gree as soon as you are fi­nan­cially able.

JEANNE PHILLIPS

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