Intuition warns of trouble
DEAR ABBY » I suspect that something has been going on with my husband and our daughter-in-law. My husband has become obsessed with her, and they both seem to become nervous when they are around me at the same time. My husband is always checking to see when I’m leaving.
My son and daughterin-law and their three kids live in our duplex, but my son isn’t home most of the day. Should I be concerned about what’s going on with them? Everything in me is telling me something is not right. — Worried in Wisconsin
DEAR WORRIED » I hope you are wrong, but if “everything in you” is telling you something is not right, listen to your intuition. Continue monitoring the situation and keep a journal of your observations.
If your marital relationship with your husband has changed, it’s a red flag. Talk to him about it. It may take the services of a licensed marriage and family therapist to get your marriage back on track. Share the journal with your therapist during some of the sessions, or with your attorney, if the need arises.
DEAR ABBY » My mom died five years ago. I didn’t talk to her the last few months before her death because of the extreme stress she put me under. I finally told my brother it was his turn to deal with her because she had always been sweet to him. I dealt with her issues for 40 years and could no longer continue. Mom was greedy, self-centered and narcissistic. She caused many issues between my brother and me.
My question concerns her ashes. I have them. My brother wanted nothing to do with them, and I don’t know how to dispose of them. I have considered spreading them in the mountains since she liked camping and fishing, but I don’t know if it is legal. Otherwise, they will sit in my basement forever. — Needs A Solution
DEAR NEEDS » Contact the funeral home or crematorium that handled your mother’s remains and ask what the rules are in your state about the disposition of ashes. Because rules differ in different states, counties, etc., the people there would be in the best position to assist you.
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