Man seeking commitment in his 30s finds casual sex instead
What are your thoughts about having a sex-only arrangement with an ex? Most of the women I’ve dated have contacted me after the relationship was over hoping to have “no-stringsattached” sex on a regular basis. I have always refused because I igured it would make it more dificult to move on and to meet someone new.
That said, I’m an attractive guy inmy early 30s, and I’d hate to continue to waste my prime sexual years. I’d love to be married and have a family, but I’m struggling to ind a woman who is honest, loyal, a good communicator and independent. That leaves me with either having no sex while hoping for amiracle, or a lot of sex with women I don’t really like.— Searching in Oregon
Dating may look like fun, but at a certain point it becomes serious business. You have reached an age at which you know what you are looking for. However, you will never ind it as long as you tie yourself to women who don’t it the bill. This does not mean you must live like a monk, only that you direct your sexual (and emotional) energies forward rather than backward if your goal is marriage and a family.
I’m 16 and unlike most girls I know, I prefer to be natural. I don’t shave or wax my body hair. My friends accept this as my business. But my stepsisters say I look gross and proudly display their shave and wax jobs. They say their boyfriends and nearly all guys prefer it.
I have a boyfriend, but we aren’t to that point. However, someday that day will come. Does it really matter to guys if a girl shaves and waxes? Also, how do I deal with my stepsisters?— Natural in the West
Deal with your stepsisters by continuing to ignore their advice and following your own path. The idea that women should be hairless from the eyelids down is one that Madison Avenue and the porn industry have foisted on the public. I can’t predict how “guys” will react to you in your natural state, but I can say this: AMAN who cares about you will be only too glad to accept the entire package.
I have a close friend who visits me often. Recently I discovered that in addition to eating snacks I put out, he has been sneaking food and things like canned beverages frommy home when I’m not looking.
He has money. In fact, he is a very generous person. I can’t get over his behavior. Is it right that this bothers me, and if so, what should I say?— Missing My Food in California
It should bother you, because as petty as it is, it’s still theft. What you should say is, “Why are you taking food frommy home without asking me irst?” It’s a legitimate question. If he denies it, your buddy may be a bit of a kleptomaniac.