Take a mo­ment to re­flect on 2018

The Wichita Eagle (Sunday) - - Arts & Culture - BY BON­NIE BING

Well hello 2019.

The only way I can believe an­other year has whipped by is to look at my 2018 date book. Yes, I have a cal­en­dar/ap­point­ment/notes book that is with me at all times. I don’t put stuff in my phone be­cause I spend half my life look­ing for my phone.

I’m not a phonea­phobe, I just like pa­per date books. Look­ing through the pages gives you a per­sonal glimpse of the year. It re­minds you of all the fun wed­dings and par­ties you at­tended and the sad times such as fu­ner­als. Also the lunches and din­ners you had, both for busi­ness and plea­sure.

Pa­per or not, take a look at the ad­dress book or con­tact list. Peo­ple moved, passed away, got di­vorced. Changes. Al­ways changes.

The high­light of our year was adding a new daugh­ter-in-law and three grand­sons to our fam­ily. I got to shop for Christ­mas presents for boys! Two high school se­niors and one in col­lege. Shop­ping for three grand­daugh­ters is a piece of cake by com­par­i­son. But I have to ad­mit I en­joyed the chal­lenge.

Re­cently, I wrote about hol­i­day tra­di­tions and me­mories. Well, I’m about to spring a tra­di­tion I came up with on the new mem­bers of the fam­ily.

It was prob­a­bly the old school teacher in me when a few years ago I thought we needed to take a mo­ment to re­flect on the past year. I wrote out some ques­tions, gave ev­ery­one the list with space for them to write their an­swers and an en­ve­lope to put it in and seal it.

Yes, some rolled their eyes. One grand­daugh­ter in­di­cated I needed to sleep more so I didn’t lie awake think­ing this stuff up. But they did it.

I kept all the en­velopes un­til the next Christ­mas. I gave them out, and said they could share what they had writ­ten but it was not re­quired.

So I’m print­ing the sheets and hope they’ll all take part. All they have to do is com­plete these sen­tences.

The BEST thing that hap­pened to me this year was:

The WORST thing that hap­pened to me this year was:

The most fun event I went to all year was:

My three goals for the 2019 are:

Some­thing I learned this year:

The big­gest sur­prise I had all year was:

My hope for 2019 is: Once they had opened their en­velopes and read what they wrote a year ear­lier, they were hooked and ready to fill it out for the next year.

Even if you don’t force oth­ers to do this, take a minute to an­swer the ques­tions your­self.

I’ve al­ready filled out my sheet. A bit of re­flec­tion on the past 12 months re­minded me once again how truly blessed I am.

Reach Bon­nie Bing at bing­by­[email protected]

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