Celebrating her teen son’s success
DEAR AMY » My son had a rocky start to high school, including participating in an event that led to juvenile detention and community service.
He went above and beyond his community service, spending more than the required hours scooping poop at a horse facility that serves handicapped children.
He has turned his life around, and while still doing dumb 17year-old stuff, it looks like he will graduate on time. He has preenlisted in the Marines.
I want very much to announce his graduation to his attorney, therapist, probation officers and others who were part of his rocky start.
I REALLY don’t want this to appear as a gift request, but I want to acknowledge those that made the event possible.
Can you suggest verbiage to convey that gifts are not required, but thank those professionals that made his success possible?
DEAR MOM » Wow, don’t overthink this. You should approach this as a thank-you message, conveying: “all hail and hallelujah, it looks like this young man will cross the finish line!”
Reach out to each of these people with a note (or email), acknowledging their efforts and compassion toward your son.
Tell them that you are so grateful that “the system” worked for this one young man.
If you send a written note, send a copy to their supervisor. If you send an email, forward it to the supervisor.
Let them know: “You do a very tough job. I hope you will be gratified to learn that my son has completed his community service, has gone above and beyond in recognizing the impact of his actions on others, and seems to have turned his life around. He never would have gotten there without your efforts, and we are so grateful. I’m very proud to tell you that he will be graduating on time (fingers crossed) and has preenlisted in the Marine Corps.”
If your son would like to follow up with a printed graduation announcement with his hand-written: “I made it! Thank you!” on the card, I guarantee it will be posted in the break room.
No one will think you are trolling for gifts.
DEAR AMY » Your alarmed response to the question from “Newlywed” was truly bizarre. Her husband was being possessive. They worked together, and he wanted to continue to work with her. He didn’t want to go to work without her and didn’t want her to change jobs.
Maybe this guy just really loves his wife! Your answer suggested that he was some kind of monster!
DEAR UPSET » I genuinely hope I was overreacting to this. But where you saw devotion, I saw control. Control and possessiveness are not love.